An afternoon get-together at a Raleigh, North Carolina restaurant turned into a viral video Tuesday when a white woman complained that a group of Black women were too loud and then called one of them the n-word.
The video was posted to Chanda Stewart’s Facebook page and has been viewed thousands of times. In the post that went along with the video, she wrote, “So this happened today.
“What was supposed to be dinner with my girlfriends ended up in us being called stupid ni**ers. The climate of the country today has some people thinking whatever they feel … they can say. The reality is if we were to retaliate with this same kind of hate and ignorance we would be called “angry black women”.
“Hopefully this idiot is not your coworker, neighbor, or friend. If so … what will you do with this information??”
She ended with a quote from the Rev. Martin Luther King: “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
Stewart told WRAL on Wednesday that she was still in shock from the incident, “but this is the society we’re living in right now.”
“I don’t care how you feel like we should have been acting,” Shaw told WRAL. “If I was standing on the table with three heads in a purple jumpsuit, nothing justifies you to come to my table and call me a stupid (racial slur).”
The video begins inside Bonefish Grill at North Hills, with a narrator saying, “So I am shocked because this person had the audacity right there to come to our table and tell us that we are the rudest people that she has ever met.”
The camera focuses on a white woman across the restaurant, identified by WRAL as Nancy Goodman. The narrator says, “Look at her,” and the woman raises her arms and says, “Hi, girls.”
A number of words were exchanged and as Goodman approached the group, she said, “I have some really good friends that are black, and I love them.”
The narrator says, “We never said anything about color.”
The video focuses briefly on another member of the group, who says to the woman, “Let me show you my money. It’s just as green as yours.”
The woman responds, “Oh, you’re so stupid, n***er.”
One of the members of the group then says, “Call your black friends a n***er” and the woman turns and says to the narrator, “They’re not like you.”
Goodman told WRAL Wednesday that she should have asked the restaurant manager to tell the women not to be so loud.
“Instead, I went off on them, which I shouldn’t have done. But I had had it. It was out of my control to calm down my anxiety,” Goodman told WRAL.
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She also told the TV station that she was not sorry she had used the racial slur.
“I’m not going to say I’m sorry to them because they kept pushing at it,” she told WRAL. “I would say it again to them. They are the rudest individuals I have ever seen.”
The restaurant did respond to the incident with a statement, but many people feel it isn’t good enough.
“We are a place for all people to gather for good food in a comfortable atmosphere, including positive interactions among guests,” read an emailed statement from Bonefish Grill. “We do not tolerate hate speech or disrespect in our restaurants. We are reviewing the incident to see how we can do better at deescalating something like this in the future.”
The company said it had reached out to Chanda Stewart.
Bonefish said corporate policy is to ask anyone using racist language to leave the restaurant.
“We are still looking into what happened and don’t have all the facts,” Bonefish Grill said in an email. “Nonetheless, the use of a racial slur by anyone in our restaurant is unacceptable. … We do not tolerate this type of behavior. Guests who behave in this manner are asked to leave.”