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Everyone knows TLC’s Chilli doesn’t date just anybody. Her high expectations and standards were displayed on her reality show, What Chilli Wants.

Well Chilli, whose real name is Rozonda  Thomas, is still looking for Mr. Right. In a recent interview with Essence, she made it clear that she’s not lowering her standards because she knows what she’s bringing to the table.

Thomas also let it be known that when it comes to finding a man, she’s not just limiting herself to dating black men and she encourages other women of color to search for love outside their race.

“I want for women — especially for women of color — to not be so closed minded when it comes to love,” Chilli said. “God made all of us and you may not find your husband because you’re trying to stick to one group. You’ve got to be open.”

“You want the person who’s the best person for you, no matter what color he is,” she said.




12 thoughts on “TLC’s Chilli Encourages Women Of Color To Be Open-Minded About Dating And Consider Men Outside Their Race

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  2. SheCat54 on said:

    Will T- Boz be next? I always thought Chilli was mixed? Peckerwood men and women are professional gold diggers in a sly misleading way and dumb **ggas fall into their trap and are stuck for life. Most interracial relationships are not as blissful as they seem. I see unhappiness on the faces of blacks that are cemented in these relationships but, I don’t feel sorry for them.

  3. I wish some blacks like CHili stop trying to push this on black women. We are the ONLY race who does this. You do not see no other race trying to push their people to be with us. I have always said YOU CAN NOT MAKE SOMEONE LOVE someone. If a black woman is not attracted to other men, it wont work, while that other man is going out the front door, that sista will be being the brotha in the other door. I say this even with friendships. You can not FORCE no one to have outside friends. it has to happen naturally and NOT because someone told you to “try it’. Stop it. No one needs to be told none of this IF that is what they really want. I do not like clubs; and I had people tell me to go and be open about clubs; and guess what, I still do not like clubs.

    • Another person who need to stop trying to push this is also talk show host Michael Basdian. I love you Mike but good grief it is like this is his topic every month. You can not push this on non one if they do not want it. it wont last. Passing Though is correct on her post.

    • Passing Through!! on said:

      Well said Amber! We’re the only race who encourages our own to date outside of their race to find happiness. No other race does this why? Because they date and marry each other, Indians, Africans, Latina & Hispanics mostly marry each other they don’t need to be persuaded to find love elsewhere. Whites and others only date black (self-hating black men in particular) if there’s some financial benefit in it for them. You’ll never hear a Asian or a European tell someone in a failed relationship “Why don’t you try and date a brotha or a sista” hell no! They’ll go find that person another Asian or European person to date before they recommend them date some black or even Hispanic. It’s just a low key way of pushing black self-hatred and white supremacy. Just because a person has had a bad relationship or even a string of bad relationships doesn’t mean that every black person you meet will be a fail. If you keep meeting the same type of loser maybe there’s something wrong with your selection process or the type of people that you’re attracting. Like Halle Berry she went from black fail to white fail because she’s the problem. With all the racism of trump black people are still more than willing to help him breed ourselves out of existence.

      • Most of us blacks do the same thing but when this issue is talked about; it is always someone black bring up this issue and trying to blacks to be with others. To men, doing this pushes white supremacy beliefs that blacks do not get along with each others so why should any one else want to deal with blacks and their women. Blacks are PUBLICLY advertising to be with people who are white, etc. That is what bothers me about blacks doing this.

      • Passing Through!! on said:

        YOU CAN NOT MAKE SOMEONE LOVE someone. If a black woman is not attracted to other men, it wont work
        @Amber….Another good point. Blacks needs to stop forcing this practice among blacks who chose not to date outside of their race, your exactly right that this make black people look as if we are divided. And feeds the notion that black women want white men and black men want white women.

    • That is a lie. Some black women are single because they do not want to be married. Some want to just play around, some are looking and man is good but the women just does not want them only as aa friend, etc. and the TRUTH is MOST black men still marry/date black women as with ALL other races of men who date and marry their own. Sorry not everyone want a white man/Hispanic/Asian man and that is fine as well. As it was said, those men can treat you like trash as well just like women of other races can treat black men like dirt and get their money. I look at the Kardashians. Those black men (Kanye is just crazy) are with those women all because of $$$$$$$$$ and fame to boost their careers.

  4. I agree with part of her statement but definitely not all of it. Date whomever makes you happy. But do it for the right reasons.

  5. Passing Through!! on said:

    Her high expectations and standards were displayed on her reality show, What Chilli Wants.
    Yep, and that’s exactly why she’s single. I watched that show and her antics were completely horrible. A man she dates must be a Christian, can’t eat pork or drink alcohol. She dogged this guy out that she met at a restaurant because he was having a drink before she got there. Reality t.v . reveals a lot about a person and sometimes the real glimpse of our favorite celebrities doesn’t paint the best picture. How is Chilli trying to give someone dating advice when she can’t find nor keep a man? A man is a man period, and dating out of your race doesn’t guarantee that you will be any happier or successful, just ask Halle Berry, Tyra Banks, Garcelle Beauvais. And sometimes it’s not the man or woman of your race you’re the problem, you’re the reason why you’re single. Look at Halle Berry failed relationships with both black and white men, Kanye West bipolar nut job, Tyrese failed marriage to a non-black woman working on his second, Jermain Jackson a string of failed marriages to non-black women, Janet Jackson a string of failed marriages to non-black men. I believe that 90% of a ALL interracial relationships are based upon black self-hatred. Date who ever makes you happy, but Genocide isn’t the answer.

    • Really on said:

      Yess preach. You’re exactly right. Some ofThese black folks especially those with money feel like they can’t be anybody unless they marry white. So sad and disgusting really. that’s why blacks never overcome.

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