About bawdeyasmith

I had a great time with some amazing men last week in Dallas at my Men’s Panel “Why Do Men Look but Don’t Leap? I wish you were there because they shared some real nuggets. These men, both married and single, spoke from their hearts and souls honestly about want they want, what they’ve learned, […]

The official statement from the Carter-Knowles family was released with this heading: “Beyonce, Jay-Z And Solange Say They’ve ‘Worked Through’ Private Issues That Caused Elevator Fight.” I guess the time finally came for the very private family to finally say something because if they didn’t, they knew the speculation would just keep going and going and […]

The TV show “Scandal” may be over but, we have ourselves a real life scandal happening in real time, with a powerful man and alleged mistress to boot! Remember that episode when everyone was trying to figure out who is Olivia Pope? Well, I’m wondering who is V. Stiviano, aka Maria Vanessa Perez, born in […]

Dear Deya, I have one simple question for you and your female audience: Do women really want to know what men think and how they really feel?  -MG MG, I have one simple answer for you: NO! Just kidding! But of course there’s a little truth there too. You may not know this, but for years […]

In case you missed it last week, check out Deya’s take on episode three of “Scandal”. She gives you highlights on the show and, of course, girlfriend advice on how you can “let the sun shine on you”!

“I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside. There is no shame in black beauty.” — Lupita Nyongo Women battle with […]

Let’s face it, not everyone has a Valentine’s Day boo.  But regardless of your relationship status, that doesn’t mean you can’t feel good, right? You’re probably thinking that you are grown and don’t need me to tell you how to pleasure yourself, but you would be surprised how many woman are still uncomfortable with this […]

Lights, Camera, Action! But wait, how do I look? I don’t know anybody who wakes up camera ready, be they white, Hispanic, Asian, African American, or otherwise.  At the very least, they all need some facial powder, and a good haircut. But as with everything else, it seems like black folks, particularly women in this […]

Most women hate going to the gas station, I know that I do. For various reasons, we don’t want to stop and “fill ‘er up.” However, when your car, your body, your mind, your spirit and your energy are on ‘E,’ you need to refuel so that you can get to your desired destination. There’s […]

Dear Deya Direct: Hello. I am 30 years old, single with no children and have NO idea of where life is taking me. I feel like I am living in a box with few choices to make. I am in no rush to get married or have children and have no desire to do so […]

Dear Deya Direct: To be completely honest with you, I am not feeling this holiday season.  I’m single, in my 30’s and tired of spending the holidays alone.  It’s getting overwhelming because as much as I’m proud to be an independent woman, when it comes to the holidays, being by yourself is for the birds. […]