Another day, another one of our favorite “aunties” having a hard time holding famous Black men like R. Kelly accountable.
Last time it was Taraji P. Henson and Erykah Badu and now it’s Tichina Arnold’s turn to get dragged.
See on Thursday morning, the “Martin” actress got some serious side-eye for suggesting that it’s important for Black people to uphold one another up, regardless of their guilt or actions.
“*Its disturbing to watch black ppl pounce on other black ppl when they are already down..guilty or not, but when it comes to holding others races accountable for their horrific actions, I hear crickets,” the actress and singer wrote on Twitter.
“Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Operate through love & compassion.”
While she never mentioned the Pied Piper by name, it can be assumed given all the media coverage he’s received lately along with his 10 counts of aggravated sexual abuse involving three minors, that the actress is talking about him.
Whatever the case, this way of thinking is what’s truly “disturbing.” Miss me with this love, intention and honestly when you have none for his victims and their families. Most importantly, it’s hard to forgive and want healing for men who refuse to admit their guilt and continue to act a damn fool in public.
Honestly, it’s heartbreaking to continue to watch Black folks, especially Black women, continue to push this narrative that holding a Black man that harms Black women and girls accountable is somehow anti-Black. It’s manipulative, harmful and counterproductive.
So is this idea that until we persecute white men like Harvey Weinstein or institutions like the Catholic Church first (which has already been done), we shouldn’t focus so much on the predators within our community.
This exact thinking, this protect “Black men by any means of necessary” mantra, is what continues to perpetuate rape culture in Black America and helps cover and protect predators. It also send the message to Black women and girls that their lives and bodies don’t matter, especially if their abusers are Black men.
Enough is enough!
Thankfully, I’m alone on this one. Black Twitter clapped back and had some choice words for Ms. Pam.
This “we need to protect black men at any cost” idea OFTEN comes as the expense of black girls. The same mentality as when the dirty ass uncle is at the cookout with the little girl in the family he molested everyone acts like it didn’t happen. Shit is sick & traumatizing.— Mila (@MiniMilly_) March 7, 2019
I have never seen a race of women SO damn unprotective of their own fellow women and girls.. only BW do this shit.. We should ONLY be concerned with people harming black women and girls, we need to pounce on them harder and faster while not giving a fuck about the "others"— Tasty Cakes (@TiffiePop85) March 7, 2019
All these words of thinly-veiled defense for a predator and none for the survivors. I’m tired.pic.twitter.com/Ps6GSpoWRk— Defund Green Arrow’s Hillbilly Tether™️ (@IWriteAllDay_) March 8, 2019
Well, Pam...you know the drill.— QuarterRichAuntie (@TheLifeOfRonny) March 8, 2019
Gets ta steeepppppiiin!!!! ✌🏾✌🏾 pic.twitter.com/B7jdf4vdZB
Did you hold Martin accountable when he was sexually harassing Tisha on the set of the Martin sitcom to the point that she left the show and sued? Or did you tell her to operate through love & compassion?— Jade 💚 (@_JadeWrites) March 8, 2019
Tichina, I love you sis, but this ain't it. I'm not sure where you're looking and not seeing, but a majority of the Black people holding folks like R. Kelly and Bill Cosby accountable for their actions, are doing the same for the Weintein's and Singer's and Spacey's among us.— first things first, muthafuckas. (@DamoneWilliams_) March 7, 2019
So we should remain quiet when Black men abuse teenage girls and women out of racial loyalty? Where is the loyalty to the Black girls who were abused? Where’s the love and compassion when Black girls and women are sexually abused?— Jenee Darden (@CocoaFly) March 7, 2019
We sighing too. You endanger the most vulnerable of Black people while coddling a grown man with an appetite for kids. That's sick— Keyanna Celina (@Adopefemalemc) March 7, 2019
Are you serious right now? 🙄 A serial predator who targeted Black girls and young women finally being held accountable after decades of abuse is ‘beating a dead horse?’ We can focus on racism and getting sex abusers locked up at same time. Stop deflecting. #MuteRKelly— Chevron Summers (@DPMCanty) March 8, 2019
Hate it had to be Tichina Arnold, but damn.— *Insert Lemon Pun* (@LemonClarkMedia) March 7, 2019
What is it about middle-aged black women and their automatic empathy and protective nature towards predatory black men in the community?
Why are y’all so willing to throw black girls under the bus? pic.twitter.com/rX6Gsskvv0
Black Twitter has been getting racist white people fired from their jobs for the better part of a decade.— Genie Lauren (@MoreAndAgain) March 7, 2019
Don't hop #ONHERE with some bullshit lie about us only going after black people.
ERRBODY CAN GET IT. @TichinaArnold
Add Tichina Arnold to the pick me list. You bitches have bricks for brains. Your black kang abused BLACK girls you stupid POS.— renee (@reneeistired) March 7, 2019
Sigh??? SIGH? What the absolute F does that mean? Ms Arnold are you that problematic auntie telling 10 year old girls not to be "Fast" in front of your male guests?— Ashtart 🏡 (@ashscheherazade) March 8, 2019
Guilty is guilty. Black, white, whtever. White a**holes literally got a hashtag & global metoo mvmnt. Enuf attn?! I'm tired of hearing blk folks make excuses for rapists & pedophiles just bc they're blk.— Bubbles (@TeeHodges) March 8, 2019
We're not responsible for the actions of other communities. Let them clean their messes. Raise your standards. Whataboutisms are the tools of the foolish. We will not support abusers in our community, simply because they are black. If we do not check our members, no one will.— Latanya's a Concrete Cowgirl with a Sweet Toof (@CraftyScribbles) March 8, 2019
Alright, Ms. Arnold, which square do you want? pic.twitter.com/199iom3lyt— Pop (@mrbdj95) March 8, 2019
This is why we can't move forward because too many would rather stand up for abusers over standing with victims. Black Girls Matter.— Jewel Barnett, Ph.D. (@jewelbarnettphd) March 8, 2019
Andddd again we are Taraji Badu’d— Candis R. McLean (@CandisRMcLean) March 8, 2019
You really want us to let predators harm Black girls because white men do the same? You got on Beyoncé's internet to say this ashy shit? Girl, gone.— Stop gentrifying 'jawn' (@HarrietCarried) March 7, 2019
Trash opinion. Black women are being molested and taken advantage of and the solution is to be quiet about it? That’s a steaming hot take. I prefer to protect black women. 🤷🏽♂️ not predators. Regardless of race or capacity— Very Concerned Citizen Kane (@Quinnsanity22) March 7, 2019