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First dates can be pretty stressful for men. High expectations of doing everything perfectly to secure the affections of a woman can layer on the pressure with each passing moment of the rendezvous, especially for men looking for a serious partner. Women can be pretty difficult to read but there are several telling signs that can be gathered from observing body language. Remove the guessing out of the equation of “Does she like me or not?” by paying attention to these following signs during the courting stage.

Affirming body language

Body language is more telling than verbal conversation, and there are several body language signs that should be taken into account when deciding if a woman is worth the investment or if moving on to the next option is best. If a woman plays with her hair while in conversation with you it is a sign that she is interested in you (women always want to make sure their appearance is appealing to men they are interested in). Pay attention to the direction her body is facing while you are together.  Keeping close bodily contact, facing her body towards you and touching you in light ways during laughter or casual convo are all affirming body language signals to let you know she is interested. If you see any of these affirming signs you are in a good place.

Rejection body language

Some of these signs are blatant, however, when blinded by a woman’s beauty and caught up in nervousness of doing everything right to impress this woman, these signs can be looked over. We are all extremely too attached to our mobile devices these days, but if she is paying more attention to her phone during the date than she pays to you, chances are her interests in you are slim. If she consistently taps her foot, she may be in a hurry to get the date over and done with which also is a display of her lack of interest. Taking multiple sighs of breath, sitting with crossed arms, frequent trips to the bathroom and consistent complaining are also signs that this date may be the first and last.

Telling conversations

Verbal conversation gives insight to a person’s mind and their interests. By listening to how she responds to certain statements, current affairs or how she follows the conversation you can gather a solid conclusion about how her mind works and what her interests are. Opposites attract, but sometimes brilliant thinkers and conversationalists don’t pair up too well with those who have limited vocabulary or a narrowed scope of subjects. Using active listening skills and asking the right questions can help you to determine if her personality and mindset pair up well with your own.

Eye contact

The eyes are the window to the soul and by observing what her eyes are doing during the date you can take a peek into her inner thoughts. Eye movement and placement during conversation can reveal what is on a person’s mind and their emotional state. Swift shifting of the eyes in different directions can denote nervousness, looking to the upper left denotes dishonesty, the rolling of the eyes can denote annoyance or frustration and of course, direct eye contact actually signifies an interest.  There are many interpretations of eye movements in body language, but the key is to be observant to determine what unspoken truths the eyes are telling you.

First Date Signs Every Man Should Look For  was originally published on

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