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It took falling deep in love with his girlfriend Gillian Iliana Waters for Michael Jai White to realize he was wrong about women all along. The “Why Did I Get Married” star reflected on his love life in a new letter he penned to his exes on Facebook.

According to Michael, he thought all women were “crazy” and “needy.” But the tables have turned and the hunky star finds himself craving the same “emotional attention.”

Read his heartfelt message, below:


In all my years as a grown man I knew, without a doubt, that women were different than men and required a gang of emotional attention. I came to the resolution that part of a man’s role was to endure women’s emotional neediness by patronizing them much as you would a child: “Yes, Dear, I’m listening,” even though this is some rhetorical BS. “Of course I miss you,” even though I just saw yo’ a– a little while ago! “I see you’re calling me”… even though I just F*^#ing talked to you 20 minutes ago!

As a man, you have to deal with hand holding, “yes dearing,” and freaking cuddling! I endured this for years until my relationships reached their natural demise due to some natural chemistry flaw between us or the woman’s natural chemical imbalance–yes I said it! I believed ALL WOMEN WERE CRAZY and the only choice a man had was to decide exactly how much crazy he’s willing to deal with to sustain a relationship.

It’s crazy to think I, as a man, would ever want to spend every waking moment with a woman, to be all-up-on each other constantly, to talk endlessly about “every-damned-thing” and see each other “every-damned-day!” I was always the spoiled Alpha Male who didn’t have to try as hard and I dealt out advice to my brethren due to my abundant experience with women. I had Alpha Females, “Dime Pieces” with degrees and plenty of them! I pretty much got every woman I wanted, rich or famous and who could argue with my numbers? On every level, I was “The Man!” Agreed? Well take my numbers, “Dime Pieces,” and vast experience and apply it to what I’m about to say–I WAS WRONG ABOUT WOMEN ALL THESE YEARS! My [Exes] were right!

The interesting thing about every good argument is the shifting percentages of validity on each opposing side, but only one concept will tip the argument past the 51% and expose the unflinching reality of the truth. My new life philosophy is to look forward to being wrong because each time I’m wrong, I learn something that unlocks the door to a concept I struggled to understand. The truth is then revealed and to live in the truth is to live in enlightenment.

I am now in a relationship that I never knew was even possible. I’m in love with my best friend who I shower with endless affection, talk to all times of the day and miss the moment I leave her side. I now understand what the women of my past desired from me. They INSTINCTIVELY KNEW that love actually looked this way! Everything from the hand holding to countless daily declarations of love were not only a byproduct of the man’s emotions but it was something easily volunteered by the man who’d truly loved them.

I simply didn’t love my Ex’s in the capacity their spirits knew organically needed to be loved. I believe woman nowadays have learned to settle for what’s FAMILIAR to love. In turn, they’ve had to decide how much of a man’s love they can live without to sustain a relationship. As we men are natural leaders in providing security, it is women who are the natural leaders in how to love. They are instinctively born with the barometer to feel when love is real. The behaviors they’ve required from men IS the behavior that is true for love.

The crazy lesson for men is that YOU’LL NEVER KNOW HOW MUCH OF A MAN YOU CAN BE UNTIL YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEONE BEYOND YOURSELF. I can say that I am now the very best version of myself and that’s due entirely to my relationship. My perspective is clear, my goals are defined, distractions are nonexistent, my business and personal relationships are stronger than ever. I don’t feel like “The Man,” anymore. I feel like A MAN.

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11 thoughts on “Michael Jai White Apologizes To His Exes In Open Letter: ‘I Believed All Women Were Crazy’


  2. Man go write a book, young love is no joke! Reminds me of “Teen age Love” by Slick Rick.

    Ask for your friends experiences . . . gold mine! All kids would buy it!

  3. specialt757 on said:

    This is what happens when you find “the ONE” Your whole prespective changes. You’re willing to do just about anything and everything to make your ONE happy. It’s a wonderful feeling and unfortunately, not everyone has this experience. This was a great open letter.

  4. Remember, my hasty sisters, this isn’t a letter written by JUST a mature man, this is a letter written by a mature man who has been smitten. What changed in him, from what we’ve read, is that he admits to being in love with this woman. It sounds like his feelings for the women of his past never reached the level that his feelings for this current woman have excelled. He hasn’t just grown as a man, he has grown as a man in love. Can we say that, God forbid, something happens to ruin this relationship that he will still see a women’s emotional health as he does now? Will his next relationship partner get the respect and understanding that this women has lavished in during their time together? Only God knows!!!!

  5. Spice on said:

    If I may say something that may be contrary to his apology. I think what has happened to Michael Jai White is that he found a woman he was WANTING AND WILLING to do what it takes to satisfy HER. He may have had what some may call a come to relationship meeting but I truly believe there is more at the base of his out pour than written in his apology. Not to put his new love on a pedestal but uhmm she must be doing what he wants because he saw fit to address it publicly. He was actually being nice to his ex’es but if I were one of them I would probably feel pretty low right now. I would wonder what I did wrong or what I did not do to pull out of him what was already there. Men are naturally lovers and affectionate whether they will openly admit it or not. It just takes the right woman to get it out of them. Apparently NO prior woman he was with had it in them, to pull the aforementioned out of Michael….and I’ll say again. He just found the woman that struck a real chord in his heart and he appears to be all for giving her what she wants. What ever attributes she has to receive his affections isn’t permeated in ALL women equally if at all.

  6. MsWanda on said:

    I will publish this letter because it would help other men see what they to can look forward to after you have grown to this level of a Man

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