There is an unfortunate trend and buzz that has emerged across the national landscape as it relates to relationships. The recent events of a few professional athletes have shed additional light upon domestic violence, skewed relational roles/responsibilities, and how power manifests itself among couples. Fragile egos, poor conflict negotiation skills, inadequate anger management skills and feelings of entitlement prevent couples from being able to sustain healthy relationships.
1. Oppositional or aggressive behavior.
If your partner routinely says “No” with an attitude or aggressively confronts you about an issue, then you have been forewarned. Verbal, physical, or sexual confrontation/coercion towards you, his/her family, friends, strangers or animals are warning signs that should not be ignored.
2. Property destruction, disregard for another person’s belongings, or vandalism are all considered to be sociopathic behavior.
If your partner has ever busted out your windows, keyed your car, slashed your tires, set fire to your clothes, or attempted to maim your pet, you should reconsider the viability of remaining in the relationship.
3. Repeated lying (by disclosure or omission), manipulation, or theft should let you know that your partner/potential partner may be a sociopath.
Making excuses for your partner by believing that some lies are okay or not that grand may only enable the behavior to become worse.
4. Deception by rule violation (e.g., not going to work/school or frequent tardiness).
We all have rules to follow in our homes and our jobs and if a person is unable to adhere to those explicit guidelines and norms, then there exists the possibility that they may not have high regards for their life circumstance, themselves or you.
5. A failure to plan and/or chronic impulsivity.