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He’s such an easy target.

Kanye West might as well have a sign on his back that says “provoke me and get paid.”

It can’t be easy being him. I’m not defending his actions, but every one knows he’s a young, rich, hot-headed male that TMZ and the tabloids love to hate.

The latest, as of this posting anyway, is his run in with a dude at the chiropractor’s office. As Kim Kardashian was entering the office, the guy holding the door for her allegedly used the N-word, referring to the paparazzi.  When she told him that word was inappropriate, he allegedly screamed at her “shut up, N -word lover, stupid slut.”

The story says Kanye arrived a short time later, ran up to the guy and punched him.

If this account is true, Kanye didn’t actually see or hear the encounter between Kim and the dude, which probably means Kim told him about it.

Here’s what I’d like Kim and other women, especially those with black men, to know. Black men need our love, our support, our help, and our loyalty.

Black men need us to have their back.

Yes, Kanye West puts his foot in his mouth and is fun to tease.  But like so many black men who are outspoken or confident, he has been labeled as arrogant or cocky. On stage or on the court, a certain type of swagger is expected and accepted by mainstream America.

What Kim may not know is according to, only 45 percent of black males graduate from high school in the United States, black men earn 67 percent of what white men make, and one out of every 21 black men can expect to be murdered.

Year after year, these horrific statistics are published and regurgitated by sociologists, reporters and talk show hosts.

If we don’t lift them up,  who will?

Black men need us to have their backs.

What they don’t need is for us to:

1.     Put them in harmful, dangerous or volatile situations.

2.     Make them feel like they have to prove that they love us.

3.     Make them feel they aren’t worthy of us

4.     Feed their insecurities.

5.      Ignore the pressures of being judged, profiled, and belittled.

In reality, it takes a strong woman to do these things. I think the only one who might have consistently done all five was Ruby Dee. And Ossie Davis isn’t here any longer to tell us any different.

But seriously, it takes a courageous woman to stand back to back with her man, able to be there when he needs to lean on her and remembering to lean on him to remind him of his strength. It takes a “new independent woman” to understand that her degree, her bank account, and her goals should be used to help hold down her family, not to build herself up.  And it takes a smart woman to know when she needs to protect her man from the world – even if it’s for his own good.

My dad wasn’t perfect, but my mom found a way to always make him appear that way in our eyes.

If you’re a black man, especially, please weigh in on whether these tips are on point and what else you need on the regular. Yeah, that too. But also share some advice for Kanye and other young men trying to maneuver through this world as husbands, fathers, breadwinners, etc. You never know what words might help heal a heart, calm a soul …or avoid a lawsuit!

(Photo: AP)

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9 thoughts on “Does Kim Know How to Make Kanye the Best Man He Can Be?

  1. truthHurts on said:

    !!!!!!ONLY A WHITE PEICE OF ASS CAN MAKE A BLACK MAN ACT SO…..My ? Is if Slutdashain was Black would he go above and beyond to show his ass and protect her so.

    Mark my words she is gona b the same one who is gona b responsible for Kenya’s death. I foresee it coming……..and its not that far away…..!!!!!!!GOD BLESS THIS BLACK, IGNORANT FOOL……..

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  3. Dee Gray on said:

    I kind of see it a couple of ways – 1st I can understand why Kim told him; I’ve done the same with my husband, it makes you feel like he has your back. At the same time, yes, it’s not easy being a black man in America, the cards are stacked against black men. Also, sometimes the black woman is the one doing most of the giving – support, understanding, time, effort & finances to the relationship; just remember, it’s a two way street.

  4. Nikki please. It is not Kim’s or any other woman’s duty to help black men be the best they can be.
    Who is helping black women be the best that they can be?
    Black women are damn near invisible and you want us to continue to have the black man’s back when they don’t have ours! HoneyChile please!!

  5. Shauna on said:

    Seriously? How can Kim help Kanye be the best man possible when she is not the best woman possible? She is famous for being a rachet suhore. That is the blind leading the blind.

    • Mac Ben on said:

      …as opposed to the broke and “ratchet” wig, weave and contact wearing, ill-tattooed, monkey-mouthed black hoes on his level…right?

  6. Kim K could care less about black make stats. As long as she and the rest of her ratchet family have Kanye around to help keep them relevant in the media, statistics be damned! Gotta make that money and keep the publicity machine going. Or as they like to say in Hollywood, ‘All publicity is good publicity.’ Kim has found herself the perfect fool and she is bumping his head like crazy!

  7. BlackBeauty on said:

    Why would anyone care?
    This topic is such a waste!
    PLEASE, use your space more wisely, and with content that has importance, informative, and has valaue.

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