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In situations where a woman has children with more than one man, but only one man pays child support regularly, is it okay if she divides the money between all of her kids? The issue here is whether or not it’s fair for one child to be better taken care of than others. DL says that if he were the man paying child support, that money is for his child. He doesn’t believe that the woman’s other children would be his responsibility. Do you agree? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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10 thoughts on “How Should Child Support Be Handled?

  1. Justbeingme on said:

    I was raised in a two parent home born on the early 60s 7 siblings all by the same father. My parents helped a lot of my friends and neighbors because they both worked. They always said it takes a village to raise a child. It doesn’t matter if it’s not your child never deprive a child of food or clothing. There is nothing wrong with feeding your other children if one eats they all should eat. There should be no favoritism in the household your other children will remember and resent you for it. It’s not there fault there father didn’t support them they didn’t ask to come into this world,

  2. Justbeingme on said:

    As a mother myself I’m old school born in the early 60s like my parents and my elders use to say it takes a village to raise a child it doesn’t matter who child it is you should still feed and clothe them

    • African American Woman on said:

      I’m all for helping out too…when I choose to. If a father is paying support for his kid and has not agreed to be the community dad; how does she have the right to unilaterally force him into supporting children he didn’t father? If that made any sense, she would be able to take him to DR and get support orders from men who aren’t the legal fathers of her children. That case would be tossed out because there is no logic there. That’s like you paying your car note and the bank decides to unilaterally take your payment and divvy it up between a few folks up for repossession so they don’t lose their cars because they feel that you have a moral obligation to do so. You would be outraged; one- because that idea is outrageous and 2- you didn’t give permission for that. If a woman had kids that she doesn’t get support from; her problem…work some OT or something but to force another man to financially support kids that aren’t his is ludicrous and outrageous.

  3. Justbeingme on said:

    Even though though it’s not right but that woman have to make sure all her children is taken care of no child left behind they are still siblings so they all are treated equally. That’s a sad situation if that man is the only one paying child support but once that money is issued to her she is free to do what she feel is right.

  4. African American Woman on said:

    Wait, wait, wait…If a responsible father is supporting his kid, Mom has absolutely no right to unilaterally allocate his contribution for her other children. The other kids are her problem…let her track down the other fathers. The responsible father didn’t make those other kids…this is coming from a mother of 4.

  5. Willie Perry on said:

    Unfortunately, the mother cannot feed one child and starve the others. Whatever funds goes into that household has to be for the benefit of all the kids.
    A mother bird who has three babies feeds them all long as their moths are open. So that farther who raises hell about his child getting all the benefits. He needs to stand down. As a caring parent he/she should understand.

    • Leslie on said:

      Thank you Willie, I agree 100%! Once the money cones into her household, it’s up to her to decide how it is allocated, and if that means buying three less expensive pairs of shoes for multiple kids, as opposed to one more expensive pair for one child, that’s her call entirely.

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