“Pssst, hey shorty!” “What’s up Ma? You looking good!” “Girl you must be tired, because you’ve been running through my mind all day long” are just a few in the long list of pick-up lines that you may hear a man say when a woman catches his eye.  But this is 2014 and times have changed. Women are not only more independent, but just removing them from the equation as a man, we should want more from our women.

If you’re truly looking for a mate and a real commitment (not just a “friend with benefits”), here’s some tips on how to ask a woman out like a REAL MAN.

#1 – Don’t Ask Her

In short, be a man about it.  Don’t be passive aggressive, wondering in the background if she likes you, if she wants you to ask her out or not, FIND OUT!  Go up to her, introduce yourself and ultimately ask her what time she’s available. Let her know when you’d like to take her out, then give her the option to let you know if she feels you deserve to be graced with her presence on a date.

#2 – Be Serious

If you want a serious woman, be serious. And never tell a woman:

“Let’s meet up”

“Let’s hang”

“Let’s kick it”

“Let’s chill”

No, she is not one of your boys. Treat her like the woman she is. A real man always has some kind of plan–even if it’s a loose outline–for the night’s festivities. The only time a man should ask “where do you want to go?” should be right before the word “next” after you have had fun doing the activities that you planned out and the night is still young. If you invited her out on a date YOU plan it. That means you pick the venues and events; yes, events plural.

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