4. Respect “Me Time”. Sometimes your spouse needs to go to the bathroom for 45 minutes. Look, he’s not going to the bathroom the whole time; he’s trying to get away from you. And that’s OK. Maybe you’re being annoying. We can all be annoying at one time or another. That doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad marriage, it’s just time to one’s own thoughts and feelings.
5. Listen just to listen, don’t listen to respond. Many times, while our mate is talking, we are thinking of our response. That’s not truly listening. Sometimes we must forego what we want to say and listen to what he/she is saying (and not how they are saying it). Trust me, it will get you out of hot water many times.
6. Never apologize if you aren’t sorry. Some spouses want to “keep the peace” and say they are sorry or apologize to keep their mate happy, but if you’re truly honest with your mate, you will state the truth. It may seem harsh at first, but it will get everything out in the open.
7. Date, date, and date some more. Just because you got married, doesn’t mean you have to stop dating. People say it over and over again; “do the things you did to get me after you got me.” But we understand it’s sometimes hard to do with jobs, kids, responsibilities, etc. But you have to have unwavering when it comes to dating. Dating allows you to continue to have fun with your mate and learn more outside of marriage. Couples who dated for at least three years before their engagement were 39 percent less likely to get divorced than couples who dated less than a year before getting engaged. So even if you didn’t date long before marriage, make up for DURING the marriage. Keep dating!
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7 Steps To Divorce-Proof Your Marriage was originally published on blackdoctor.org
