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Around here, we call it a “Pull Up Pal.”

It’s your “boy,” your “girl,” your “bestie, BFF, roomie,” anybody who cares enough about you to turn you around when you’re about to say or do something really stupid.

Man, could Tyrese have used one last week when he made some really mean comments about overweight people.

I don’t know if I’m more upset that Tyrese, who has been a great friend of the show, is so insensitive or because he was just on the Fantastic Voyage Cruise with me for seven days. Could I have triggered his tirade?

Here’s what he said when asked what responsibility he has to inspire people to live healthier lifestyles:

“No two situations are the same. If you are fat and nasty and you don’t like the way you look, do something about it. It’s simple. When you take a shower and you put your fat, nasty body in the shower and by the time you get out, the mirrors are all steamed up so you don’t look at what you did to yourself. That may sound offensive or insensitive, but ultimately, you are big as hell because you have earned that sh*t. You worked your a** off to eat everything in sight to get big as hell. If you got a problem with the way you look, then you need to do something about it. Excuses sound best to the people that’s making them up.”

There comes a point in almost every celebrity or high-profile person’s life when they’re asked about a topic that is bound to cause controversy. What people don’t seem to understand is that in most cases, it’s a set up. When you say the appropriate, expected, politically correct thing, you’re boring and it does nothing for the interviewer’s ratings, magazine subscriptions or the numbers of followers they have on social media.  Say something way out of the box and people can’t stop talking about you, the show or publication lucky enough to get you to say something foolish.

It’s all about business, and numbers and popularity…no matter what kind of risk it is to your career.

You have to be smart enough to use the media in your favor and not let it use you to say something that could alienate you from the people who love and support what you do.

Some of Tyrese’s defenders say his words were taken out of context and if we had heard him for ourselves we would have been able to tell that he wasn’t being mean-spirited.

That may be true, but that’s the risk people take when they get too far out of their lanes.  I can name 10 comedians off the top of my head who could have said the same thing and gotten a huge laugh. But Tyrese isn’t a comedian. And while we’re on the topic of people getting caught up, let me say Jay-Z is not an Obama spokesman, and Dennis Rodman is not a diplomat or an ambassador or anything that should make him think he can represent the U.S. in North Korea.

There’s nothing wrong with stretching out and sharing your opinion about matters outside of your expertise. They each have every right to do that.

All three need to find a trusted soul who can help them listen to reason and keep them out of trouble. Where is Olivia Pope when we need her?

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45 thoughts on “Too Far, Tyrese

  1. If you are not medically sick to have a certain weight its cool I can live with that…..But, seriously I see no reason why Tyrese should apologise….. The fact is if you can not deal with the answer given then the person should not have asked the question, simple as that.

    Why utter words that you honestly feel strongly about then turn around and apologise? It doesn’t make sense…..if you said it, then you mean it……

    There is a saying, ” who the cap fit, let them wearing” Simple, overweight folks can sure do something or attempt to do something about their size…..

    Guess what Tyrese, somewhere someone listened and will try….so shout it out it out again……

  2. Gaywrites on said:

    “No two situations are the same. If you are fat and nasty and you don’t like the way you look, do something about it. It’s simple. When you take a shower and you put your fat, nasty body in the shower and by the time you get out, the mirrors are all steamed up so you don’t look at what you did to yourself. That may sound offensive or insensitive, but ultimately, you are big as hell because you have earned that sh*t. You worked your a** off to eat everything in sight to get big as hell. If you got a problem with the way you look, then you need to do something about it. Excuses sound best to the people that’s making them up.” (TYrese c/o TJMS 2013)

    …. LMMFAO!!! Wow, way to go, baby boy.

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  4. I’m a fat girl and I don’t care what Tyrese thinks. I liked him, but not gonna support his movies or music. God doesn’t like ugly and that means on the inside as well. He’s gonna learn the hard way that his words define him and when his sales start to drop b/c his “big, nasty” fans abandoned him he’ll see just what power his words really have. Follow one rule in life, if you can’t say something nice then don’t say ISH….

  5. Charityluv on said:

    I have been a Tyrese fan for years, but he did go to far with this one. For some reason, some of those who are of “normal” weight find it their personal duty to put down others who are fat/obese/ overweight/ plump/curvy/thick. They feel that the numbers on the scale allow them the right to treat heavier people as subpar human beings that don’t deserve a chance at life. While there may be those who do get fat simply because they love to eat, there are also those who are heavy due to other reasons. Being by medication, hereditary, or by circumstances in life that caused them to not be as active as they should, such as people who suffer some type of physical injury. But, what about those who gain weight due to emotional issues such as abuse, loss, or depression and find food as their way to cope? Or those who bore children and just couldn’t lose that extra weight? Do they deserve to be treated badly and called names like “fat” and “nasty”? And to see that his response was that he was speaking of his OWN mother and sister speaks volumes of how he feels about them! So if he feels that way about his own family, just imagine the words that he has for strangers, many who are his fans! I am just saying that while he has his right to his own opinion, remembering that he is a celebrity figure who’s words have the power to reach millions should come into great consideration. He doesn’t know what amazing power the tongue has and how a few simple words can affect so many!!!!

    *sorry for the long comment by the way!! lol

  6. boo wop on said:

    “No two situations are the same. If you are fat and nasty and you don’t like the way you look, do something about it. It’s simple. When you take a shower and you put your fat, nasty body in the shower and by the time you get out, the mirrors are all steamed up so you don’t look at what you did to yourself. That may sound offensive or insensitive, but ultimately, you are big as hell because you have earned that sh*t. You worked your a** off to eat everything in sight to get big as hell. If you got a problem with the way you look, then you need to do something about it. Excuses sound best to the people that’s making them up.”

    I went back and read the quotes after I listen to his apology and didn’t find his apology very sincere….but that just me……As I stated in my last comments…..I don’t purchase his music or books ……only listen to whatever song is on the radio……most times don’t even know the artists……so nothing lost and nothing to gain here……….

  7. Not A Fan on said:

    Clap clap (sarcastically) for Tyrese…..STILL no pass for him. I will never purchase his music again. (and I’m not overweight)

  8. Perhaps what he SHOULD have said when asked about his responsibility as an entertainer to inspire better health, he could have mentioned his new “Health Initiative Plan.” (Even if he didn’t have one in mind.) But nope! He could have recovered when asked about his statements, but wrong again, and instead said, “I’m not apologizing for what I said I’m apologizing for the bad choice of wording and execution of my point around obesity.”
    BEFORE he made that last comment, his publicist should have advised him to speak about his idea of promoting healthier living… or something to that effect. Seems as though he could not help but to open his mouth wider and inject BOTH feet.
    (Of course, he is not responsible to inspire anyone to live healthier, but still… He could have mentioned healthier living by reading, prayer, meditation, etc.)

  9. msyellarose on said:

    There also comes a time to shut up in public. That should have been one of those times. Not a fan of his anyway, but just a few friendly words of advice.

  10. boo wop on said:

    Why did Tyrese come off so Judgemental towards over weight people? Well when we spend so much time making these people feel like they are some kind of royalty……When we make them bigger than life…..This is the type of response you get……Tyrese felt entitled to dish on over weight people because you gave him the power over you to do just that……This is why I don’t star worship…..I don’t care who you are…….you are a human being… I will not stand in line for hours to get your autograph, no I will not buy your book or go out of my way to be in your space……..This type of human behavior is what create these people…….You made these people and they treat you like yesterday’s trash but you still keep paying them …….sad!!!

  11. margaret Cla on said:

    He’s Been reading a couple of books now he thinks he Dr Phil. Like the old saying goes. don’t look down on a Man unless you’re picking him up. Every time I see him on a show he try’s to act deep, he’s deeply disturbed to think everybody is fat by choice. This kids has made a couple of dollars and now feel as if he has a gavel to judge. Don’t get introduced to “KARMA” se is a beast.

  12. Speak life and love everybody is what I would say to Tyrese, JayZ and Dennis. Use your words and your works to help others and not just yourselves.

  13. Marlynn on said:

    people have got to stop attacking others for their honesty. You ask a man’s opinion and then you crucify him for it. It’s ridiculous. Although he could have been a lot less offensive about what he said and calling anyone fat and nasty is a cruel way of describing anyone, without the insulting aspect of his comments, what he said was true. Most people are fat because they choose to be. For people who don’t have any type of disease that is causing their overweight syndrome, they eat tons of fatty, high calorie, fattening foods, chips, hot dogs, candy and drink gallons of soda and their body’s simply become obese from all the unhealthy download combined with the lack of exercise. Keep it real.

    Now unfortunately instead of people being honest about obesity being a health issue, they pacify their self esteem by trying to make it a positive thing. Being obese is not a good thing. Frankly I even think it’s an insult to use the word curvy or phrases like she’s a woman with curves when referencing to obese people because their are a lot of curvaceous women who are not obese. How did being curvy get associated with being obese? I wonder. Anyway, no disrespect to women who are overweight because you are still beautiful rather big or small but if a man considering you to be unattractive because of your weight gets you this upset, that’s an indication right there that there’s a problem and the problem isn’t the man and it isn’t you, it’s your weight. Just loose it if it offends you that much.

    I agree thought that black women shouldn’t support black actors who think they are too good for black women. They get big, make millions and then marry white women. Stop supporting those types of actors.

  14. Valerie on said:

    Frankly, what Tyrese said is what most black male musicians, athletes, entertainers, etc. feel. Let this be a wake up call, ladies (especially black women). Stop supporting these guys. When they are “high on the hog” they don’t give a damn about black women. They find any other woman except a black woman to share their wealth with. But, we black women (continue to support them). They degrade us in so many ways and we turn the “other cheek”. I will no longer patronize any of them.

    • Tammy King on said:

      He think the comment he said is toward black women only it for the white women he fool with too.Just remember whats goes around come around shame on him.

  15. Toniasb612 on said:

    I heard his remarks, while TJMS was on their cruise. Last night I was adding songs and deleting songs from my my iphone and came across Tyrese. I immediately deleted all the songs I had. Tyrese must think that only people in shape buys his songs and go to see his movies. Tyrese, I’ll never spend another dime on your movies or your music.

  16. twink on said:

    Too far man!!!!! I wish your vocabulary was better than that. I had 3 kids and 2 came at the same time so I had a weight issue. Yes I work out in the gym to stay fit and healthy sometime raising kids so that they don’t turn out like you make all the weigh gain worth while.


  18. The truth but too far; think it don’t say it. I know someone who think dark skinned people are evil (I mean really dark like him…personally I think he is beautiful) is that just her opinion or…….use some discretion man.

  19. Personally I agree with everything he said. People who are gigantic did this to themselves. Furthermore, as a Breast Cancer Survivor who was turned down for SSI Disability during my treatment until I hired a bloodsucking atty that took 25% off the top I’m pissed because guess what! If I had just been Morbidly Obese I wouldn’t have been turned down in the first place because apparently being too fat to function trumps battling Stage 4 Cancer!

    • Ms. Ranson, I am sorry about you being denied SSI without hiring an attorney. Notwithstanding, I am far from being morbidly obese and/or extremely overweight but there was a time when I needed SSI, and was immediately approved. However, I believe mine was granted quickly because I am an avid voter and contacted my Congresswoman. When people tell me they were denied, I advise them to call AND write AND LEGALLY stalk their local government officials; forcing them to do the job they were hired to do.

  20. Debbie Johnson on said:

    He may have had good intentions, but his delivery was terrible, most, not all have medical issues that causes excessive, he needs to research b4 he verbally attack people of such.
    what if someone commented on how dark he is or why he look the way he look, he can’t take the words back, once you prove you’re an asshole, no one wants to deal with sh**,smh, ignorance is an ugly trait.

  21. arlester on said:

    hi well first of all. i fell that tyree should not have made those comments. i’m a school teacher and my middle school student can read very very well and also under the english language. he should understand the we also teach self-esteem, which he has set back 100 years. no matter what their size,shape or form that uncall for. you know it takes a whole village to raise one single child, but it only takes one of our corner stones to make a statement which might change verything we have taught. WHY TYREE.

  22. I get it, stars want to make a name for themselfs. But if you need to criticise find a subject you know something about. I am a overweight person and if he feels that way towards overweight people how does Mr. Tyrese feel towards people with Cancer, or people with a disability or those people that have Aids. I am not big fan of Mr. Tyrese and now that will not change. I just know if someone made a nasty comment of Mr. Tyrese’s acting or lack of acting skills I’ll have a very big smile.

  23. demp109 on said:

    Gentlemen don’t talk to ladies like that. There was no love or respect for people in his response. His mother should have taught him, “if you don’t have anything kind to say, don’t say anything”

  24. OldSchoolGirl on said:

    He (Tyrese) is correct. In many instances, people are fat, because they did it to themselves. No one made you gain the weight. You worked at it by eating an not exercising….that is true. Those that are offended by it, are in denial about how they gained the weight. Now, it was not necessary that Tyrese call overweight people nasty…now that is going too far. But if your feelings are hurt because he called it what is is…then until you face the fact that YOU have done this to yourselves, you will continue to attack the messenger, failing to hear the message.

    • Angryman on said:

      Your response shows that just like Tyrese, you don’t know what the hell you are talking about! A lot of times people have medical issues or are on medications that cause them to gain weight! Not every overweight person is overweight because they just eat and eat and eat!! Are there some that are fat because they are just greedy? I’m sure there are, but that doesn’t apply to every over weight person!!

      • Steno Star on said:

        Amen! And people who are not overweight or obese shouldn’t even comment because they don’t understand the struggle/the addiction. That’s not a justification and I’m not saying that overweight people shouldn’t lose weight for health reasons. But you are right, there’s people who are overweight for all type of medical reasons, not just necessarily overeating. And to call them nasty is his personal opinion, not a fact. I thought he knew better not to disrespect people regardless what his opinion is.

      • I get the medical issues dilemma. The doctor prescribed steroids for me and I am dreading taking them because the last time they caused me to go ten pounds. You’re sort of darned each way.

  25. well, he is who he is , and he has an opinion weather we agree or not is our right, i myself was a larger woman , lost a lot of weight but to have someone anyone to say i was fat and nasty isn’t right, i was a fan , yes was not anymore. and i was not buying bootleg, so yeah his record sales will be down. now that that out of context.

  26. Did knuckle heads need to stop asking questions that they don’t want to be answered honestly. It’s foolishness and a waste of the readers time if we are going to read responses that aren’t heartfelt.

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