Spring is here which means marriage season is in full swing. Over the next few months, from sweltering hot summer days to the cool days of early autumn, couples across the globe will stand in front of officiants in all their pomp and circumstance to make their life paths one under the watchful eyes of God (or the creator in which they believe).
The wedding day is for everyone to join the happy couple in celebration of their union, but the months leading up to the actual nuptials are for the engaged to plan out their pending life together. During this time, negotiations are made in compromises that will ensure the marriage’s longevity, but one area that is often brought to the table of matrimonial diplomacy with leniency is sexuality.
Many engaged couples have already entered into the space of sexual activity, but just because sex has happened before marriage doesn’t mean sex can’t be withheld from an agreed upon point until the night of the wedding. And reverting to virginal ways actually has its benefits believe it or not.
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If you are headed down the aisle this wedding season or if you happen to know a happy couple who is on the verge of making it last forever, take a look at these examples of how abstinence can deepen intimacy before marriage.
A bond is established.
Sex can sometimes be a distracting component in relationship building, but by removing intercourse from the equation, each partner can begin to learn more about the other, from personality traits to secrets that have never been revealed. With sex being placed on the backburner, intimacy building exercises can be used to deepen the relationship bond and to develop an unspoken form of communication that is only understood by lovers. An intimate bond stands the test of time when the newness of the relationship fades.
Sexual triggers are discovered.
Each person has a different set of sexual triggers that begin the arousal state and prepare the body for intercourse. When abstaining from sex, couples can learn what turns them on by incorporating activities that require touching and close bodily contact. Erotic massage performed by each partner on the other is a great way to survey each other’s bodies and to observe how the body changes when certain areas are stimulated. Laying hands on each other’s bodies further deepens bonding, intimacy and an understanding of what makes each other hot.
Trust is deepened
Trust is at the base of any successful relationship and is necessary for both partners to thoroughly enjoy sex. The interesting thing about women is that their minds are directly connected with their vaginas, and if the mind perceives harm or any type of dishonesty or distrust the vagina goes into protection mode, making penetration uncomfortable. Establishing a solid level of trust makes a woman feel safe and allows each partner to feel secure within the relationship.
Passion is intensified.
When desire is strong between two partners and sex is reserved for a length of time, the passion within each partner begins to build up, turning a small flame of desire into a sweltering heat. Once the abstinence period is over and sex takes place the experience is intense. Imagine how amazing and memorable intensely heated sex would be during the wedding night. The sexual energy that would be generated during that time would be magical (maybe even magical enough to make a baby).
Building trust, deepening passion, learning sexual triggers and creating a bond are all benefits to be experienced from committing to abstinence before marriage. It’s an amazing way to begin a new life with a life companion. Try it out for yourself if you are headed down the aisle this summer or suggest this process to a friend.
