Fifty Shades Of Zane: Author Talks Sex, Orgasms And New Book - Page 2

You’re an expert at turning people on. What gets you excited? Are you like the characters you present in your books or more conservative in the bedroom?

Hmm, personal questions. LOL.  I get excited by looking at my man, period. I get excited by knowing that he loves me and treats me like a queen. I get excited by knowing that we can touch each other and bring one another pleasure. The rest is whatever has us running hot on that particular day. No, I am not conservative in the bedroom and I have no apprehension because I am with someone that I can be myself with. That makes all the difference in the world.

People from all over the world write you for advice. What are two of the top struggles women go through sexually that have shocked you and what advice do you give?

If had to pick the top two, I would say fear of being on top (taking control in the bedroom) and lack of orgasms during actual intercourse. I wrote an entire chapter on being on top in “Dear G Stop: Straight Talk about Sex and Relationships.” I also wrote a very graphic description of how to do it properly in the opening chapter of “The Hot Box” and the main characters sorority name in “The Sisters of APF” was “Soror Ride D%*k” so if they read my work, they will figure it out.

As for the orgasm issue, I believe that most women do climax during vaginal intercourse. They are expecting a lot of fireworks, toes curling, etc. Clitoral orgasms are generally stronger and that is why they have stronger ones when masturbating, coupled with the fact that they are not concentrating on what the man is thinking about their body, their movements, their dirty talk when they are masturbating. It is fine to be concerned about making sure the other person is sexually satisfied but it is pointless to have sex if you are making it all about them, and not about both of you.

What is your secret for keeping your audience sexually, mentally and emotionally captivated by your work? To what do you attribute your success?

Zane: I am real, I take risks, and I don’t care what people think. I write about characters that have flaws, have issues, and deal with real life problems. I attribute my success to the fact that I walk to the beat of my own drum, I never try to emulate anyone else, and I am simply doing me.

Some have criticized you for writing your popular lesbian book series, Purple Panties, even though some church women were secretly buying it at your events. Why do you think women are still afraid to explore that side of their sexuality? What’s truly keeping them in the closet? How can they embrace who they really are?

I would not say that they are being kept in the closet. I am not interested in women but I can appreciate that passion and sensuality are universal. I can appreciate books about homosexual men as much as I can about homosexual women. I publish both by several authors. The books turned a lot of heterosexual women on but a lot of the readers are lesbian and appreciated me doing it.

With that being said, I do get a lot of emails from women who are struggling with their sexuality. I always tell them that no one has a heaven or a hell to put them in here on Earth and they need to live their lives in a way that makes them happy. I do not believe that people can change what is in their hearts and it is truly disturbing to see others try to crucify someone for their personal choices. It is none of their business, quite frankly.