4. Keeping quiet about dissatisfaction
When a sexual experience has been less than pleasurable (see #3!), many tend to keep their opinions to themselves, but when in a long-term relationship with a partner this behavior is far from beneficial. Instead of keeping your dissatisfaction a secret from your beloved, take a stand and make the decision to talk to your partner about your desire to be completely satisfied by him or her and talk about ways to solve the issue. Make sure to bring the problem to your partner in a non-threatening way (telling someone they are inadequate in the sex department can deflate an ego quickly). By approaching the conversation with the desire to make the sexual experience better for both of you, the less than skilled partner won’t feel as if he or she is being attacked. Make the commitment to work through the issues with your partner and educate yourself on what can be done to improve while teaching your partner in the process.
5. Holding yourself back
This is an issue for women moreso than men and is a big mistake that robs them of the opportunity to experience a climax. Whatever may be holding you back—whether it be fear of being judged or being uncomfortable with your body— work on questioning those fears and placing them where they need to be (which is outside of the bedroom). Holding yourself back from truly experiencing your partner may cause frustration for both parties, so if image issues or a lack of sexual confidence are reasons behind the repression of sexual expression, talk to a sex therapist, counselor or even a sex coach to gain a fresh perspective on yourself and your sexuality in the new year.
Sexuality is free to explore and experience and in the new year everyone should make a commitment to connect and communicate with their partners in a more open and loving way. Use this new year as a way to put a spark back into your relationship.
Top 5 Sex Mistakes Not To Make In 2015 was originally published on blackdoctor.org
