High School Student Suspended For One Year After Hugging Teacher

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  • The simple act of hugging a teacher got one high school student in Duluth, Ga., suspended last month, WECT reports.

    A school hearing officer found Sam McNair to be in violation of Gwinnett County Public Schools’ sexual harassment policy. As a result, he received a one-year suspension last week.

    Watch video of McNair’s hug here:

    Surveillance video shows McNair entering the a classroom at Duluth High School and embracing his teacher from behind, while tucking his neck behind her head. Per a discipline report, the teacher alleges the teen’s cheeks and lips made contact with the back of her neck and cheek. She also said she’d warned McNair that hugs were not appropriate.

    McNair denied the report and that the teacher told him hugs were inappropriate, saying he never kissed her. “Something so innocent can be perceived as something totally opposite,” he said.

    McNair’s mother was shocked by the news, saying the district should’ve notified her son if the hugs were banned prior to suspending him. The suspension will also disrupt his college plans.

    “He’s a senior. He plays football and was getting ready for lacrosse and you’re stripping him of even getting a full scholarship for athletics for college,” April McNair said.

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    36 thoughts on “High School Student Suspended For One Year After Hugging Teacher

    1. Whether his act was had sexual intent or was innocent doesn’t matter. It is inappropriate in a student teacher framework unless given permission. Hugs of any kind are only acceptable if both parties are willing participants. She had previously told him not to and her body language made it clear that it was not okay when she pushed his left arm off.

    2. I’m surprised at all of the excusing for this. This doesn’t mean hugging is unacceptable in general. Hugging is fine, but only if both parties are willing participants.

      The teacher previously told him not to hug her, yet he still does it and kisses her on the neck and cheek or brushed his face against it or whatever. When he puts his left arm around her she clearly pushes it off, yet he still reaches around again and pulls her close. That demonstrates a total lack of respect for her whether she is a willing participant. He then feigns innocence by saying it was just an innocent hug and doesn’t understand why it was taken the wrong way. That sounds like the typical behavior of the abusive stalking manipulative mentality. Hugging is not acceptable when a person doesn’t want to be hugged, especially when she is the teacher.

      His mother is teaching him a horrible lesson that his self centered act is acceptable by excusing it or that his status as an athlete should warrant leniency.

      A woman has the right to say no. Period. The problem here is he refuses to learn the lesson. That is why the punishment was more harsh.

    3. I am a young, married female high school teacher, and I support this punishment. It’s not alright for male students to treat their teachers like potential girlfriends.

      This isn’t just a case of a student being punished for clearly inappropriate behavior- it’s a case of an employer affirming the employee’s right to feel safe at her job. She had warned the student not to hug her, and it’s mind-boggling how many children simply ignore the word “No” these days. The punishment is way too severe for this particular action, BUT this is obviously a measured action from the school district meant to protect their employees and affirm professional boundaries for the entire education industry.

      If I were in a situation where a sexually aggressive young adult was making repeated inappropriate physical advances towards me, I would hope my administration would stick up for me in the same way. I don’t want my students constantly touching or hugging me, and I certainly don’t want them to grab me from behind and kiss me. As much as the student claims this was an innocent action, the student grabbing the teacher from behind and her negative response to his advance suggest that this was clearly for the student’s benefit- she is young and pretty and he wanted to be close to her.

      Some young men can be absolutely terrifying (though this kid seems pleasant enough, I have had enough “special meetings” with administration warning me to tread lightly with student X because of his criminal history), and I wouldn’t feel safe if the professional lines between student and teacher started becoming permanently blurred.

    4. Why does everything must be black and white. It’s not that color matters you need to teach kids that you don’t say thing out of the way or touch anyone. I hear young people talk in public like you heard in a bar 30 years ago. If we could stop black and white and go back to right and wrong we would have a better USA.

    5. A one year suspension is severe, but the gangsta should have “aksed” for permission from his sista to give her a hug. Potential scholarships are irrelevant. Momma didn’t teach her son to keep his hands to himself??

    6. Wait a minute, now. Two weeks ago a black attorney was on Fox News stating the suspension of a 6 year old boy from school for kissing a classmate on the cheek was appropriate as the classmate’s “personal space had been violated”. ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? Here you have a male student giving his female teacher a “hug” FROM BEHIND and feeling her up in the process.

    7. Why do people want to excuse his behavior because he’s black. He’s not an innocent kid, and has has discipline problems in the past. The school obviously considered his past history when handing down his punishment

    8. This guy clearly had sequel thoughts when he hugged the teacher. He walked up behind her like he was her man. I don’t feel sorry for him. It’s doesn’t matter if he is a senior. He knows right from wrong. You don’t walk up behind someone with your genitals pressed up against their butt, and think you’re going to get away with it. This boy has some serious issues that need to be address or I see the beginning of a rapist in his future.

    9. I have three boy’s I teached them every day to keep yiur hand to yourself! I’m not condemning him. But yes I think the punishments to harsh. But at the same time he NEEDS TO KNOW HIS SELF! THIS A TEACHER ARE GROWN folks. NOT UR BUDDY OUTSIDE. THIS SHOULD BE A WAKE UP CALL live n learn by IT! Move on with ur second CHANCE… LIFE LESSONS LEARNED.. and he know the DIFFERENCES OF WRONG ARE RIGHT. …

      • So, he has suffer with a year long suspension??? Black folks and that slave mentality. No he doesn’t because this is not right. This is cruel and unusual punishment. It’s sad that black ppl rather see the bad in their sons rather than the good. Everything is simply speculations and all the administration is doing is a knee jerk reaction of preventing a lawsuit. We have become too passive as a society and it’s no wonder our sons are caught up because we think this couldn’t happen to them. Sexual harassment needs to be redefined in this country because it causing too many lynch mob tactics esp with kids.

    10. in the video, the teacher pats the kids’ hand as if to say, ‘its all right’. Then he goes in for the hug and possibly puts his lips on her neck,(which could be incidental, by the way) Only then does she appear to refuse his advances. This isn’t going to be settled for a bit now!!

    11. I believe this young should have been warned, not suspended for a year. I understand both sides the teacher have to protect herself but without knowledge of the hugging policy is not fair that this young man is suspended for a year.

    12. With all the inappropriate relationships in the news lately between student and teacher, this woman had no choice but to report this to protect herself…All she needs is for him to go around telling people that he kissed a teacher and quickly her career and education are down the drain as she would be branded a sex offender.

      • Parents have to teach their young men there are some things a young black man can’t do as things are NOT equal! As crazy as this sounds, teach your kids to stay within boundaries, you are a student and the teacher is a teacher!! Keep the lines separated….

        • Uh, from what I see it’s not young black men having sex and having babies with teachers…why do we believe the worst in our kids?

        • Why does everything must be black and white. It’s not that color matters you need to teach kids that you don’t say thing out of the way or touch anyone. I hear young people talk in public like you heard in a bar 30 years ago. If we could stop black and white and go back to right and wrong we would have a better USA.

      • After reading some of these comments, it’s amazing how black ppl believe the worst in our kids. So, should the 6 year old white kids deserve the suspension he got? He’s a perv, too, kissing little girls hand. We as black ppl have so much self hate. Clearly, this was the district way of protecting themselves from a lawsuit. Where was the documentation, why wasn’t the mother informed, where was this evidence? It’s amazing how we perverted friendly interaction because of society fears.

        • You’re not actually suggesting a 6 year old should receive the same punishement as a 17 year old?

          What I saw in that video, was the studdent approach his teacher, and she turned away from him. He proceeded to wrap his arm around her shoulder, she reached up to push his hand off, and he bear hugged her. She is not hugging him back. She’s clearly trying to pull away. He’s probably half a foot and 50 pounds heavier than her. It was a huge breach of her personal space, probably physically uncomfortable, not to mention innappropriate. HIs intent with the hug is really irrelevant. The article states he’s been suspended and disciplined before for other actions, so clearly this kid has some entitlement issues. HE thought the teacher needed a hug, so HE ignored school policy, disregarded her body language, and did what HE felt like doing.

      • Polly, are you 17? Because you’re rationalization is that of an adult not a child. Of course, you’re going to factor in body language, school policy etc because you’re not looking in the eyes of youth. Yet, you’re rationalization didn’t factor in why would a 6 year old be charged with sexual harassment in the first place? What do they know about sex? This is clearly a knee jerk reaction and a flaw in sexual harassment. In addition, it’s our oversexed society perversion that leads us to think innocence is not innocent. This is simply a student hugging his favorite teacher and she should have been adult enough to talk to his parents first rather than ruin his future. I guarantee he respected her to listen and to abide, if she didn’t give him mixed signals. He’s young not an adult because if we feel that way than maybe Trayvon Martin deserved to have gotten shot. He was 17 and should have rationalized his situation. Yet, I forget black ppl believe black children need to be punished rather than spoken to like a human being.

    13. A YEAR suspension?! Either this kid’s previous disciplinary needs were grossly under reported here and were,weighed in his suspension, or this punishment is WAY too harsh for the crime. A two-week suspension and mandated sexual harassment training should suffice.

    14. I think you can see that Sam approaches the teacher from behind – when she can’t see him – she is caught off guard – the hug was in no way expected or wanted. He throws his right arm around her neck and pulls her off balance – he buries his face into her neck/cheek area – so he probably was kissing her or close enough that it was the same thing. The teacher pulls away, pulls up her right shoulder and elbows him away – clearly she needed to use force to get him off her. Then, after that he turns right away as if nothing happened – instead of backing off, hands up – offering apology and my bad. The kid is completely self centered and ill-mannered. He says “you never know if someone’s having a bad day and a hug might cheer them up” — you mean we can hug anyone we want because they might be having a bad day? what kind of logic is that? Going back to the approach on the video – this is exactly the way a predator would approach his target – no warning. Maybe he is just impulsive and hasn’t learned to look for and respect others feelings. I hope for Sam’s sake that he takes this harsh punishment constructively – and becomes a better person for it.

      • Commonsense is absolutely right. This young man took advantage of a situation and did what he felt like doing, without any regard for the teacher, her personal space, or rights. He was selfish and performed an unwanted act. He should accept his punishment without offering to write a book about his life’s woes. Suck it up; do the time; grow up and become a good man. And, keep your hands to yourself!

    15. I am not sure how anyone can comment about this mother NOT attending teacher parent conferences. Do you know the family? Do you know the mother?

      Either way, we seem to care more about condemning and destroying black youth in our society than correcting and disciplining them. Maybe we should give this kid another chance? Maybe he has learned his lesson? We have all made mistakes, right? Think about the mistakes you have made, and tell me where you might be without a 2nd, 3rd or 4th chance (for some of you).

    16. The teacher is black and she is going to derail tis black males future over a hug. It’s a he say she say of words as to if she told him not to but don’t a black man that way. He could have a bright future ahead

      • After reading some of these comments, it’s amazing how black ppl believe the worst in our kids. So, should the 6 year old white kids deserve the suspension he got? He’s a perv, too, kissing little girls hand. We as black ppl have so much self hate. Clearly, this was the district way of protecting themselves from a lawsuit. Where was the documentation, why wasn’t the mother informed, where was this evidence? It’s amazing how we perverted friendly interaction because of society fears.

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