Too often, it has occurred to me that there are some things about women a man simply does not understand. It is my hope that if they can read about some of the basic but very real scenarios from a woman’s perspective whom they’re not emotionally involved with, then maybe the light bulb will finally go off and they can approach their personal situations more effectively.
I will start with a light topic. Gentlemen, what you see is probably not what you’re going to get so make sure your eyes don’t get you in a world of trouble when you’re out with the lady in your life or your lady of the evening.
Men you can look at other women but do not linger. In other words, if you must look, get it done in five seconds or less. Do not stare, do not look again, do not try to play it off by making a comment to your woman, like doesn’t she look nice? Your lady can feel you looking even if she’s not looking in your direction. If she is looking at you, her eyes will practically burn a whole in your head.
However men if you are caught looking and your woman asks you “What the Hell are you looking at” or some variation…the following responses are all we want to hear:
Yeah babe, I like looking at women but she doesn’t have anything on you.
I was checking out her dress, it’s nice, but it would look amazing on you. I might have to find that one for you.
My bad sweetie, but you know I only have eyes for you.
Trust me, whatever she was feeling, you can ease the situation by responding the right way and then look straight ahead!
Why? Because if you’re with her she needs to be the only person that matters and the focus of your attention. She wants to know that you’re proud to be by her side, that she looks so good to you that no one else matters.
This is not an indictment on your woman’s self-esteem. It’s not an issue of if she has self-confidence, it shouldn’t matter who you look at. The point is, how should a man handle himself in this particular scenario in order to have a good experience and avoid any unnecessary drama with a woman. When you make a woman feel beautiful and sexy to you, it goes a long way with her. It changes her swagger, she holds her head a little higher and you Mr. Man will reap the benefits.
That’s my take on men and roving eyes, what’s yours?
Ladies and Gentlemen: Send me your questions, topic suggestions, and comments. And we’ll get to engaging Girlfriend-Style! From time to time, I will post a new scenario for us to consider and it might be yours!
Deya “Direct” Smith, is a producer on the Tom Joyner Morning Show and host of Girlfriend FM and Beyond the Studio celebrity interviews on BlackAmericaWeb.com. She is also a motivational speaker, actress and social commentator. She can be reached at DeyaDirect@aol.com.