3. Use the city to your advantage!
Every city has so many cool things to do in the summer. The trick is planning, getting creative and then last but not least, enjoying. Some great suggestions are outdoor dancing or movies in the park. If you have a nice backyard you can create your own outdoor movie night, maybe even have multiple couples over. Most of your city zoos have events for adults. Have you checked out your local museums lately?
Check out the tours all around your city. Most cities have rock climbing tours, helicopter tours, boat tours, architectural tours, nature walks, day trekking tours and the list goes on and on. Then we have the festivals! Tasty treats along with good music make for great conversation.
All it takes is a quick Google search, some planning, an invitation, creativity and the city as your playground.
4. Keep it creative.
As a relationship educator one of the biggest complaints that I hear from couples is that the spontaneity and spice is leaving or no longer existent in their relationships or marriage. Relationships take work. The work is worth it but my suggestion to couples is to KEEP IT CREATIVE! One of my favorite lines is from the movie “Love Jones” says it best:
“ROMANCE…is about the possibility of the thing, from the time when you first meet some fine ass woman… To the time you make love to her. From the time you first propose to her. To the time you say I do. When people who have been together for a long time say that the romance is dead….nuh uh……they just EXHAUSTED THE POSSIBILITIES “ “Love Jones”
The possibilities can be endless when planning great date nights. All it takes is a little creativity. One of Making Love Better TwoGether’s signature suggestions is the “Date Night Box.” It’s a simple box that you can make twogether or one can be purchased. Once you’ve been on a few dates, things are going well and you’ve gotten to know each other, you take that box and in it you both put in 12 things that you’d like to do. Then before its date night, you just pull from your Date Night Box, plan and enjoy.
I also suggest cooking twogether. It can be a friendly competition, a battle of the meals or just the moment of mixing spices, kneading some dough and sampling food. It allows both parties to get involved in the planning and to be adventurous, spontaneous and flex their creativity.
Planning a date is not always about the money being spent, but more about the time invested. Planning and seeing just how creative you can be to impress the person you just may be preparing to spend the rest of your life with is well worth it.
Yanni Brown is an author, blogger and relationship educator. If you asked her, “What’s love got to do with it?,” she’d answer without hesitation “Absolutely everything!” As far back as she can remember, Yanni has always been a passionate observer of relationships, intrigued with the dynamics of what works for some and didn’t work for others. She’s taken that passion and has made it a business. Yanni has been featured in Essence, Rolling Out, WCIU’s You and Me This Morning, the Six Brown Chicks blog and Black and Married With Kids. Best know for her appearance on OWN’s Iyanla: Fix My Life, Season 1 (“Fix My Backstabbing Friends”). Visit her atyannibrown.com.
4 Tips For Sizzling Summer Dates was originally published on blackdoctor.org
