When I think of Father’s Day and all the memories as a child, the part that sticks out the most, is that my father was always gone working  and representing the country in the Navy and my mother, Shirley, held things down at the crib.

They never married. We lived in Orchard Park Projects in the city of Boston at 32 Bataan Court, Apartment 159. There were a lot of single families that lived in our building. The month of June was always exciting because it meant school was almost over. Father’s Day as a holiday didn’t hold that much weight or anticipation.

When my father would visit my sister Tanya and I, we always went to Kentucky Fried Chicken on American Legion Highway and I always got a take out box and I would wait until I got back to my projects to let my friends see my bag and smell my chicken, haaaa! I was funny like that.Michael Bivins - Father's Day

Gerard, my pops,  didn’t live with us. So after we chilled for a few, he would slide us some money for our pockets and then go on about his business. Still, to this day, we still chill and receive cards with money inside. We are a lot alike in our body frames, our noses and lips and our love for sports. Now I accept that I’m short because of him. It was hard at first, but I said I might be small, but I know how to ball on that basketball court. I’m the smallest in New Edition and BBD. (haaa, whateva!)

To me there is a difference between a father and daddy. When I married my wife, Teasha, I knew that now that I had my own family and three beautiful little girls, I was gonna make time to raise them and help them understand  who they are and not who I wanted them to be. Savannah, 7, Shilah,6 and Starlah, 2, aka the Lil’ Supremes, call me Daddy.

This is my perspective on daddies and fathers! Your kids call you Daddy because of the time you spend with them and the love you share with words and moments in the same house. Fathers sometimes don’t live in the house and come around every now and again. When some kids introduce their dads, they say  ‘That’s my father.’ My kids say ‘Thats my daddy.’

This holiday doesn’t get as much attention and acknowledgment as Mother’s Day. We know that women hold the house down and many Black family households are broken. My home has a foundation of love including praying as a family. Time always = love and it helps the character of your children to speak and walk in truth.

Happy Father’s Day to those that are in heaven and on earth! Luv is Luv, Mike Biv aka Daddy.

Let’s stay connected and inspire others to continue to support BlackAmericaweb.com !!! God Bless.

Michael Bivins is a Boston native and founding member of New Edition and BBD. He’s behind Biv 10 Records and he discovered Boyz II Men. You can connect with him via Twitter: @mikebiv Instagram: @617mikebiv or on Facebook/mikebiv

(Photos: PR Photos/ Mrs.Teasha Bivins)

11 thoughts on “Michael Bivins: The Difference Between Being A Father And A Daddy

  1. Bonita Belle on said:

    That is beautiful, Mike. Your daughters are blessed to have you as their Father an ‘dad’. If your father’s absence taught you anything, it inspired you to be a real dad, present in the lives of your children. God bless you much, and your family.

  2. Sheryl Eaglin on said:

    Beautiful article Mike! I know it warms your heart every time you hear one of the lil Supremes say ” Daddy”! Keep being the positive model you’ve always been in every aspect of your life!

  3. Stephanie Ford on said:

    MIKE, the article was written very well. I loss my dad , he was my Dad, best friend and hero. READ HIS ARTICLE ON MY FACEBOOK PAGE, At STEPHANIE FORD.

    HAPPY FATHERS DAY, Mike .

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