Dr. Rachael Ross is a recurring co-host on the Emmy® Award-winning talk show, The Doctors, and a practicing board-certified family medicine physician and sexologist whose engaging manner and frankness has garnered comparisons to Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
Dr. Rachael earned her M.D. from Meharry Medical College and her Ph.D. from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, along with a B.A. from Vanderbilt University, where she studied anthropology. She now lives in Chicago, and in her free time, refurbishes furniture, dabbles in interior design, maintains her medical practice in Gary, and commutes throughout the U.S. passionately offering “prescriptions for life.”
Practicing medicine is something of a family business. She continues to practice in her hometown of Gary, IN, with her father, Dr. David Ross and her brother, Dr. Nathaniel Ross, while mom Ruthie serves as office manager. Dr. Rachael’s sister, Rebekkah Ross, was also a physician and part of the Ross Family Doctors’ practice until she passed away from complications related to sickle cell anemia in 2011.
In addition to her family practice, Dr. Rachael has been a featured speaker at college campuses nationwide and has been quoted as an expert in Cosmopolitan and Self magazines and contributes to several medical publications. She is also the author of Down Right Feel Right – Outercourse: For Her & For Him, designed to help couples develop greater intimacy.
Dr. Ross answers your sex questions below:
I am reluctant now to have sex with my wife because I am to fast to the first finish. What can I do? She’s getting upset at me.
Make sure she gets hers first. Focus on foreplay longer so she doesn’t need you to penetrate longer.
What’s the difference between orgasm and cumming for women?
They are the same exact thing.
Hi Doc, can you speak on female ejaculation, better known as squirting. Is it pee, or something else?
Squirting occurs after the gland that lies on both sides of the urethra swell from stimuli on the G-Spot. It culminates with an explosion of the protein-rich liquid. There may be some urine there, but for real female ejaculate (and not the fake kind), it’s not mostly urine.
Doc, what does it mean when after she gets hers, I want to keep going but she won’t let me?
It means she’s had enough and she needs to rest. Perhaps you two should work on letting her get hers last.
Dr. Rachael, I am 59 and have had only one orgasm via penetration. But with “battery assisted” clit stimulation, I can get there. Will the continued use of toys desensitize the clit?
It’s positioning. Some men do the jackrabbit instead of allowing your pelvis to massage theirs during penetration. Look up the coital alignment technique and show it to your partner. Congrats!! I think you might orgasm during penetration pretty soon! And yes, fast from the vibrator for a while and focus on your partner.
Dr Rachel, How can I help my wife slow her orgasms when we’re having sex?
Figure out which part of it brings her so quickly to orgasm, and hold off on doing it so fast.
I have never had an orgasm with sexual intercourse, only with oral sex. I am a female. What would you suggest Dr. Rachel?
It depends on how old you are. Either way, it sounds like you are scared. So my best advice is to wait until you meet that special person! There’s nothing wrong w that.
Dr. Rachael, I’m a woman and making love is very very painful. I’ve tried extensive foreplay, lubricants, nothing works. This has been going on for over 15 years. I avoid sex with my husband as much as possible. What else can be done, outside of surgery, when sex is EXTREMELY painful, especially upon entry?
Some doctors can work with dilators, counseling, and other stimulation techniques to help treat vaginismus -spasms in the vagina. Find a certified sexologist in your area and see if they can help.