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16Love is such a beautiful thing, but if you find that you are fighting for it with the wrong person, you can soon find out that it hurts. When a relationship ends and your heart is broken, you may find that it is difficult to find that happy place you once were in before all of the emotional craziness.

Unfortunately, there is no quick fix to a painful breakup, but there are a few things you can do to try and ease the pain.

Pump up those endorphins!

Endorphins are like natural pain killers and are far more healthier than synthetic ones. Exercising is one of the best ways to produce endorphins. Working up a sweat is not only great for your physical health, but your emotional health, too. So get to it!

Avoid emotional landmines.

After a breakup we are often a glutton for punishment. We stalk our exess via social media, try to get the latest gossip through their friends, and re-read old love notes and texts. In the moment you may feel like this is making you feel better, but when you are trying to mend a wounded heart it is best to avoid everything that has to do with them or that reminds you of the past. Memory lane during a break-up phase is a dead end.

Ignore your doubts.

What’s done is done. Sometimes when it’s over you forget why you ended it. Then you start having doubts about your decision. You may be thinking, “I can’t live without them” or “What’s wrong with me?”. It’s a rough time, but don’t back track. Try and remind yourself of your worth, and that you are just going through a grieving period.

Remember who loves you.

Loved ones are always a great buffer during a hard time. When you are feeling down and possibly even depressed, don’t go through it alone. There is nothing worse than wallowing in your own sorrow. Try not to isolate yourself; call your friends and family for support. They can uplift you and maybe even make you smile.


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