One of the top three complaints about sex is the length of time dedicated to the act. Both partners go into the sexual situation with the anticipation of having a climax (ideally at the same time), yet sometimes one leaves feeling slighted having to reach an orgasm solo or not at all. Rapid release, or premature ejaculation (PE), is a common issue among men young and older. In fact, early ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder in men below the age of 40. It can be embarrassing for many, but there is hope, indeed, for the man that rushes through his orgasm.
Premature ejaculation can be managed and with the help of a loving and understanding partner it can be done away with for good with constant work and focus. Working on this issue with a male partner can not only help with boosting sexual confidence but can deepen intimacy as well. If ending too soon is an issue that has plagued your sex life, take a look at these helpful ways to start on the track of having sexual intercourse with longevity.
1. Help him relax.
Anxiety is one of the leading causes of rapid release in men and oftentimes it centers around a man’s insecurity about performance. Whether a woman’s good looks are shaking his nerves or insecurity about his sexual skill, anxiety can be the biggest buzzkill to sex there is. To help ease anxiety in your partner, give him a massage before sex as a type of foreplay. Believe it or not, men need foreplay,too, sometimes to get into the mood. Men may be able to strike up sexual energy in 60 seconds, but sometimes their nerves get the best of them. A massage before sex accompanied with conversation about the task at hand can help put his mind at ease. Whisper to him the things you would like to see happen when the erotic play does begin and speak positive affirmations to him that gives him the confidence he needs to satisfy you. Adding in aromatherapy candles and relaxing massage oil will help facilitate relaxation.
2. Take it slow.
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Over stimulation is another cause of rapid release during sex. Instead of resulting to quick pumps, encourage your honey to take it slow. Not only will slow and concentrated sex lengthen the amount of time you’re engaged, but it will also help to reduce the amount of sensation felt at one time. Slow and steady wins the race. Begin at a steady pace and increase speed as he gets a handle on his level of sensation.
3. Increase foreplay.
Foreplay is necessary for a woman to truly be aroused and ready for sexual activity. It doesn’t take men very long to become aroused and ready for sex, so foreplay for him isn’t typically the focus. However, by extending the length of foreplay, you can create more intensity and cause his sexual energy to burn extremely hot. Tease him a bit and only engage in sexual activity when you feel close to a climax.
4. Try desensitizing sprays.
Over stimulation or increased sensitivity during intercourse can be stopped by using desensitizing sprays specially formulated to prevent PE. The FDA-approved Promescent has been recommended by urologists for years as the first line of treatment for those who suffer from premature ejaculation. There are also numbing creams and various sprays sold at adult stores that men can use to help with reducing sensitivity.
There are a lot of aspects of sex that are considered to be subjective, and the amount of time it takes for a sexual experience to be a great one is one of these. What is considered as “too quick” when it comes to sex all depends on the two people involved in the situation. For some, five minutes is adequate while for others it simply won’t do. No matter what length of time is a personal standard, the previous tips can be used to extend the sex life of any partnership.
