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The personal, poignant story about domestic violence that singer Kelis shared in an interview published Thursday could inspire countless other Black women inside and outside of hip-hop to stop living in danger.

The “Bossy” songstress, who had been an innovator of a fearless-kind of R&B fueled by girl power lyrics, said she spent years in fear behind closed doors because her marriage to rapper Nas from 2005-2010 was tainted by turbulence and terror.

“There was a lot of mental and physical abuse,” Kelis, 38, told Hollywood Unlocked. “We had really intense highs and really intense lows. It was never normal. An intense high would be when money was rolling in. But I was 22 when I met him. We were drinking a lot, getting high a lot. So when that comes down, it was bad.”

She was physically hit by the rapper, she said and they fought. When she learned of Rihanna‘s assault in 2009 — she considered going public but stayed. It was when she got pregnant with their son, Knight, that she finally left because she knew her son deserved a better life.

“I was pregnant and it was a mess and I felt like I wasn’t going to bring a child into this,” the remarried mom to a second son said.

Nearly a decade after their rocky marriage and divorce, Kelis and Nas have been tied up in custody battles over Knight, now 8. Her story provides a cautionary tale for many young Black women, who are disproportionately affected by domestic violence.

African-American women are subjected to intimate partner violence at a rate 35 percent higher than that of White women, with the rate about 2.5 times the rate of women of other races, according to a 2017 Women Of Color Network report.

Women can take precautionary measures to stay out of abusive relationships, paying attention to any warning signs of aggressive behavior in potential partners.

As for women in abusive situations, fears of alienation and shame, as well as a guarded reluctance to discuss violence and more factors, can influence why they stay with their partners.

Here is a list of a few resources for help:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

The National Dating Abuse Hotline

National Center For Victims Of Crime

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

The National Health Resource Center On Domestic Violence

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2 thoughts on “Kelis Calls Marriage To Nas ‘Dark’ and ‘Toxic’

  1. Ted Gravely on said:

    Ladies if a man is an abusive call the police. However, don’t put your hands on him and when he lays his hands on you, now he’s the problem. I don’t know Nas’ side. He hasn’t spoken, but she sounds controlling. Nas has a court ordered right to see his son. If he hadn’t seen his child for weeks and Easter was his court appointed time – she should not have interfered nor “regulated.” I hope the court admonishes her and if it continues to happen, give him custody. You sued him for ridiculous child support and he is working so he wont go to jail. Then you have the nerve to complain about a few missed visits. How about you lower the child support so he can spend quality time with his son? Kelis, wont do that. She wants every brown penny. I hope he didn’t hit you, but I’m not catching what you’re pitching.

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