These women go on to become great wives and nurturing mothers with equally positive careers, but often find themselves unsatisfied within the bedroom and also leave their male partners unsatisfied.
The “good girl syndrome” stifles a woman’s desire to explore sexually, making her believe that stepping outside of the set boundaries will place her into the category of being a whore, and no woman wants to be labeled as a woman that is considered dirty or a untamed. Women stuck in this mindset constantly judge themselves during sex and become uncomfortable when the mere suggestion of anything outside of the accepted “sexual normality” is mentioned.
What Can You Do?
So how can you help a woman break out of the “good girl syndrome”?
- Realize that she will have to come into the desire to explore her sexuality on her own. If you push the issue and make the exploration process seem more about you getting what you want than the both of your pursuing the journey of discovery together, then she will shut down.
- Make her feel comfortable with the idea of opening up by securing her trust. She wants to know that whatever you two do stays between you two and doesn’t get out to your boys. She also wants to know that you aren’t going to classify her as easy or “freak nasty” after performing something out of her normal routine. Remember, the “good girl” doesn’t want to be viewed as bad.
- Be patient, non-judgmental and encouraging. This breaking down of old ways of thinking is a process and there won’t be a 180 turn around overnight.
Men: Is The “Good Girl Syndrome” Affecting Your Relationship? was originally published on blackdoctor.org
