As you well know, this Sunday is Father’s day. As a result of the crisis of single mothers in our community many of us spend this time of the year questioning where are all the fathers.
Well, whether you call him father, daddy, pops, old man, or just dad, I want to celebrate the men who day in and day out embrace the gift of being a father.
You know the "I gotta put in 80 hours a week, but I won't miss a recital, concert, game or event"" dads.
And the "I’ll take my kids to church even when mom can’t so they can see what a man praising God looks like" dads.
Or the "I never was shown affection by my father, but know how to discipline and love my sons" kind of dads.
Or the "none of these kids come from my seed, but I will step up and be the father they don’t have" dads.
And especially, the "I pay child support, but still can’t see my kids, but won't stop fighting to be the father G"od called me to be" dads.
There are so many great fathers out there that seldom get the shine because we are so busy talking about the ones that are not there. Perhaps if we operated the other way, brothers who are MIA could see what real fathers look like even if they never had one.
So as I get out of here, just a few shout outs:
Sherod Thurman says about her dad Kenneth Wilson: He's shown me so much over the past 16 years, including how to really treat a woman and how to be independent. While he may not be my biological "daddy", he has definitely been a father to me.
Taffani Holmes said that her father, Rufus Holmes, was never too busy for us and even though he never finished high school, always had wisdom to share.
Ms. Molly (via Twitter) said Charles M. Ward, her father "was a single parent since I was 2. He is always there when I need him to give me advice."
Mommy Making Moves (via Twitter): my husband Randy Hemphill is amazing with our son and my little sister.
And I want to send a huge Father’s Day shout out to my dad, Johnnie Johnson. I don’t remember a day that I didn’t sense your presence. I have felt your love for me everyday of my life. I don’t remember a day that you have not challenged me to be better.
Watching you work showed me how to, and your emotional availability with me and my brother showed me how to love my babies. Watching you fight through legal blindness and 4th stage cancer like a soldier has shown me how to live in the face of life. I am proud to be your son.
Family, if there is a man anywhere in your life who loves, supports, shows up and out of his children, use the entire week to let him know how much he means to you. And when someone tells you there are not enough real dads, tell them that they are not looking hard enough. Real fathers, stand up and take a bow. This is your week. Happy Father's Day.
As always, I'm Jeff and that's my truth.
Please join me this week on THE INTERSECTION as we celebrate dads. www.blis.fm/theintersection. We want you to call in and tell us about your father.