They filled their days with work, church and volunteering — Taylor as an emergency medical technician and Mixner running a support group at their home for transgender people. They bought a home and remodeled it together.
“I taught her how to use power tools and she taught me how not to cuss when I hit my thumb,” Taylor joked. “She turned out to be the queen of mud and tape — she could do a wall up just beautifully.”
They took care of aging relatives, and they retired at the usual age, traveling from campsite to campsite in a 33-foot RV. When the California ban on gay marriage was struck down in 2008, they had a civil ceremony so their marriage would be legally binding.
When Mixner got emphysema, they made a promise: Whoever went first would be cremated then later buried when the other.
“Whichever one went first is supposed to wait by the eastern gate,” said Taylor, glancing up at the beige ceiling of her attorney’s conference room. “So she’ll be up there by the eastern gate waiting for me now.”
They chose the veterans cemetery because they knew it would be well maintained and decided on cremation and interment in a wall so their names and spot wouldn’t get covered over with weeds or grass.
They wanted to be in Idaho, where their family could come to pay respects.
Taylor is represented in the case by the National Center for Lesbian Rights and Boise attorneys Deborah Ferguson and Craig Durham. It’s the same legal team that successfully sued earlier this year to overturn Idaho’s ban on gay marriages. That ruling remains on hold while the state appeals the case to the 9th U.S. Circuit.
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