When you’re conceiving a baby, you’re rarely thinking about paid maternity leave, childcare costs, how much time you’d get off when your kids get sick and all the big and little things that happen after you bring home a bundle of joy.
Thank goodness, because the recently released list of the worst states for working moms is certainly a romance killer. The wisest thing to do is to be aware of what to expect months and even years before we’re expecting. But being wise and practical are two different things.
Just as some jobs are more mama-friendly than others, so are some parts of the country. A lot of times we don’t know where we’ll end up. When you work in radio like I do, it’s not uncommon to have lived in 15 different markets through the span of your career. So far, I’ve been lucky. My two sons were born in Illinois and got their elementary and early middle school education in Texas.
Thankfully, neither of those states is on the list of the “Worst States to Be a Working Mom” put out by the National Partnership of Women and Families.
Worst States To be a Working Mom:
- North Dakota
- South Carolina
- South Dakota
But even if the state I’m raising kids in was on the list, like every good mom out there, I’d have to find a way to make it work for me and my family. Here are five practices I suggest you implement no matter where you live:
1. Find a support system. Whether it’s family, church members or co-workers, befriend women you can trust who are willing to help you drop-off, pick-up, pray with you or for you, stand with you when you’re right and calm you down when you’re wrong.
2. Get involved. It can be expensive, but make sure your kids are active in sports, scouting or something that will keep them active and allow them and you to get out of your comfort zone.