Love is ever-growing and ever-changing, which is why so many people, myself included, always need advice on the matter. From following your significant other on social media to having friends of the opposite sex, there’s always valuable insight when love is on the menu. #TeamBeautiful caught up with newlywed, Kelly Rowland and “Love Apparatus” crooner, Jesse Boykins III for a love therapy session.
The results are an epic conversation about love, lust and everything in between friendship to exclusivity. Check out what Kelly and Jesse have to say. I promise, they will change the way you look at your relationship!
HelloBeautiful: What do you think of men who get involved with their significant others’ female drama?
Kelly Rowland: Stay out. It’s called female drama for a reason unless you have a vagina.
JB: There needs to be that masculine energy in a pit of female energy. Sometimes, things are a little irrational or way out of context. I feel like it’s a feminine thing to visualize something that could happen next and stop it from happening when it’s like, that’s not how it has to happen, you just visualize what you want to happen. I feel like as a man, I always try to put things in perspective as best as I can and bring more than just her perspective because I feel like a lot of times, when a woman is telling someone else about their woes, it’s not always the truth.
HB: Do you think that men and women can be friends and friends alone?
KR: I don’t mind that as a matter of fact. I think that there’s boundaries and that your spouse has to know that and you have to know that and respect that.
JB: I’ve been friends with a number of women I’m highly attracted to and we verbalized that on many occasions and we never stepped into any of those realms because they know me. They know my growth and my progression of being who I am to who I was before. I know that when someone knows you really, really well, it’s super easy for them to fall in love with you. It’s too easy, so I rather have that aspect be left out and value someone’s friendship and companionship and understanding.
Any woman that I’m involved with or I’m friends with, we might have sex one day or we might not and I don’t care. I’m not in a race to get anything. I’m in a race to learn and grow and if someone can help me do that, cool and if we can experience beautiful moments while we’re doing that, even better.
HB: Follow or don’t follow your significant other on social media and why?
KR: I guess it’s a personal preference. I follow mine. There’s nothing to hide. I feel like when you’re open and honest in a relationship, you have nothing to hide. Why wouldn’t you? It’s your friend. You follow everybody else. you follow people who take too many darn selfies. I don’t like to follow those people either.
JB: I would rather start a relationship in reality than start it off in the fake world. I would acknowledge someone online, but I’d wait to meet them in person. So, I can have a real conversation with them. I feel like it’s about perspective and I would rather feel someone’s body language and see the chemistry, I’d rather that than just reading what somebody’s thinking in a moment or judge them by that. I like the connection and it feeling real.
HB: Why do you or don’t you believe in soulmates?
KR: I believe in soulmates. I believe soulmates are not just in relationships, but they’re in friendships. I have soulmates through Beyonce and Michelle and Angie and Solange and LaLa. I have soulmates. I’m so thankful for that too because I think they understand you. If there’s something on my heart or my mind, before I can even pick up the phone, one of them is calling me saying, “What are you doing? Are you ok?” We’re connected and I think that’s such a beautiful thing. It’s the greatest gift you can have.
JB: I believe that anyone can be your soulmate depending on how much effort you put into the relationship. I feel like soulmate is a working thing. You don’t just meet someone and everything they’re interested in, you’re interested in and it’s happily ever after because people change, people progress and people evolve. Soulmate means that you work hard at the relationship to continue for that person to be looked at in a certain light and they do the same with you. You can have more than one soulmate. Your mom can be your soulmate, it doesn’t matter.