You may know Andrea Kelly as the former wife of R&B singer R. Kelly, but the professional choreographer, dancer and mother of three hasn’t let the failed marriage keep her from dating again. In fact, Drea revealed on last night’s episode of “Hollywood Exes” that she was engaged to Brian McKee, a barber! And a he is fineee…
Andrea proudly flashed her rock and a cheeky smile as she broke the news to her cast mates on the season premiere. In real-time Andrea and Brian are already married (the couple tied the knot on March 6th) and she gushed to us that she’s engulfed in love! When Andrea isn’t filming “Hollywood Exes,” or flexing her long stems in the gym, she’s catching up with “Real Housewives Of Atlanta” so she also has some advice for fellow reality star Porsha Williams. Plus the Chicago native had tons to say about the gang violence that claims the lives of hundreds of kids each year.
Check out our candid Q+A, below:
HelloBeautiful: Tell us about your new hubby!
Andrea Kelly: Honey, Mr. Man, that’s my boo. He is just my best friend. That’s the only word I can use to describe him. [He is] someone who, even on my worst day, makes me feel beautiful. I just feel like I’m 100 percent me. He is my biggest cheerleader, the best coach and a dedicated man all in one. He pushes me to be better and there’s nothing that I feel like I can’t do [when I’m with him]. He’s just a wonderful guy. A God-fearing guy is someone I prayed for and he’s funny.
HB: Is that what you look for in a man?
AK: I do and I did. Nobody has a crystal ball, you can’t say, ‘we’re going to be together forever.’ That is my hope and my prayer that we would be together forever. But, God forbid if we’re not, that’s still the characteristics I would look for in a man. There’s a lot of men who say they love God, but a man who fears God, his soul is going to tremble at the thought, ‘this is someone who is my wife,’ and do right by her. A man who fears God, his very first thought is, “What am I doing to please God that then is going to be please her?” That’s what I got, I struck gold.
HB: Was it hard for you to take a leap and get married again?
AK: Not at all. I’m not one who gets jaded by another relationship because I believe life happens and if you live your life by being jaded by the experiences of life, you’re going to end up an alcoholic or depressed somewhere. You have to know that life happens. Good, bad or indifferent. You have to keep going. You can’t give up on the thing that God says is our birthright: to love and be loved. When you let go of that, you’ve now given up your power. I refuse to give up my power. Joy and love are two things I’m born with and I can’t give that up over a relationship. Being married again has always been an option for me.
HB: Was there ever a time when you hit a low point after your first marriage?
AK: I think, for about 22 seconds in my life, yes, because you’re in the thick of it and you’re in pain. But, even in that, the demise of a relationship, if you take responsibility for your part in it, it allows to get to the other side. No relationship ends because one person did something wrong. If that’s the case, you never would’ve been in a relationship with that person in the first place because they would’ve been all wrong. There was something great about it. There was something loving in that relationship that made you go in it in the first place. You have to know equally something you guys bought to the table or didn’t bring to the table is the reason why the relationship did or did not work.
HB: You’re from Chicago, how do you feel about this Chi-Raq movement?
AK: I don’t remember this Chicago that we live in right now. I come from the old school. I don’t get it, I don’t understand it, but we have a generation with no foundation right now. We talk about how we have bad kids, but we don’t have people parenting like they used to. We don’t have communities, we don’t have ‘big mommas’ anymore. The [kids] have no direction right now. So, we’re expecting children to parent and lead themselves, but they don’t have leaders and examples to look to do it. That’s our fault that kids can call the police because you got your butt whooped if you did. Back in the day, the stuff that kids are doing now, you would’ve gotten choked out.
HB: What is your take on physical discipline?
AK: My take on physical discipline is whoop their a** discipline. Make them see dead people. They need to know, ‘I’m not your friend, I’m not playing with you. I’m your parent, I am here to make sure you’re okay.’ All you need to do is be respectful, and if you’re showing disrespect, no, it’s going down. We want everyone to parent, but we’re taking away their ability to parent. Am I say be abusive? Absolutely not. That is absurd, but I do believe that children need to know they are loved. They need to know there are boundaries and they need to know you’re crazy a little bit. There is a level of respect that comes with that. There used to be a time when women, children and elders were shown a level of respect. Yeah, we had gang-bangers back in the day, but there was still a level of respect. Now, it’s an all out, ‘go for what you know.’
HB: You went through s public divorce, what advice would you have for ‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ star Porsha Williams?