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Michael Sam’s acknowledgement of being a gay football player sparked a whole lot of controversy and a whole lot of criticism this week.
New Orleans Saints linebacker Jonathan Vilma said this:
“I think that he would not be accepted as much as we think he would be accepted. I don’t want people to just naturally assume, like, ‘Oh, we’re all homophobic.’ That’s really not the case. Imagine if he’s the guy next to me and, you know, I get dressed, naked, taking a shower, the whole nine, and it just so happens he looks at me. “How am I supposed to respond?”
Here’s how you respond.
You put on your big boy towel and underwear and you go home just like millions of people do everyday when they undress, workout, shower and dress again in gyms all across the world.
The straight guys go home either alone or to their girlfriends or spouses. The gay guys go home alone or to their boyfriends or spouses. The world keeps spinning.
From everything I’ve read about Michael Sam, he’s a remarkable player and deserves to be drafted into the NFL. What’s more important is how well he can play football.
Whether the NFL picks him up is a different story, and the one everyone will be following closely. Who someone loves or what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business.
And let me clarify that because after hearing that I know people will say, well then there is no need for Michael Sam to make a declaration about his sexuality.
By saying he’s gay is not a proclamation about what happens in his bedroom no more than a straight person wearing a wedding band or talking about his wife or children are proclamations of what happens in their bedroom.
So, don’t even try to use that homophobic argument about it not being necessary for anyone to come out.
If it wasn’t such a big deal, a number of rumored gay professional current and former athletes would have come out already. Some of them very high-profile.
Perhaps Jason Collins would have a job now in the NBA.
Perhaps in 2014 there would be more brave young men and women like Michael Sam who would already be open about their sexuality in professional sports.
And it wouldn’t be such a big deal.
Michael Sam is not the only gay athlete in professional sports. He’s just the only one honest and brave enough to tell the truth in spite of the consequences.
For those of you listening to or reading my words, let me make it as plain as I possibly can so that you can understand.
If you’re fighting against gay people being out in sports or any profession, you’re fighting a losing battle; one that’s already been lost. If you’re fighting against same-sex marriage, you’re fighting a losing battle; one that’s already been lost.
Racists used the same arguments to fight the integration of the military and to fight against interracial marriage. Where did that get them?
The time has come.
It’s time for you to get over it!