Tameka Raymond has had more than enough of her fair share of hard times. She went through a high-profile divorce with beloved R&B star Usher Raymond, lost her son Kile Glover in a tragic jet-ski accident and almost faced the same heartbreak with her son Cinco. Tameka has been dragged through the mud by the media but through all of the tumultuous reports, she has remained strong and optimistic. How so? Tameka finds inspiration in the Kile’s World Foundation and caring for the rest of her children who take after their superstar father. We gabbed with the woman begind the myths and she opened up about how she is perceived by in public eye and life after Usher.
HelloBeautiful: How do you deal with all of the negative press?
Tameka Raymond: It’s a game of numbers and someone has to be the underdog. Obviously, my ex-husband has a lot of fans in the media and in the public, you know, just in general and a lot of the media favor him naturally because he’s grown up in that limelight and public eye and I understand. I guess for me now, it rolls off my back. Whereas, when I initially started dating him and we were engaged, it bothered me more because I just couldn’t understand like, ‘Why are they talking about me? What did I do?’
HelloBeautiful: It seemed like everything you did made headlines…
TR: Everything and the other thing is that I was pregnant for basically my entire marriage, the whole two years so when people would see pictures of me, they would always be like, ‘Oh, she’s fat, or look at her face, she looks like this, she looks like that’ and I was usually concealing a big belly.
HB: What message do you want people to know about that you feel was lost in that whole media frenzy?
TR: I think that the world and the media forgot that I was a professional, working, independent woman when we [Usher] met and that I have the ability to stand on my own two feet. I’m not defined by any partner or marriage or anything else and I hate that they never really gave me a chance or got to know me for me outside of what they assumed they knew. It’s funny, I looked at my Wikipedia yesterday. Mind you, I didn’t create it nor did I know I had one, but I googled it and it says I’m an American hairstylist, I was like, I am?
HB: Do you Google yourself?
TR: I don’t Google myself, but yesterday I was looking up a song my friend was playing and we were trying to figure out who produced it. So I Googled it and it was one of my ex-husband’s songs. We were listening to ‘Lifetime’ that he had on that album “Here I Stand,” it hyperlinked [my name] to the album and I laughed and I said, ‘Oh, look at this.’ They were talking about the album and it was about me and yada, yada…
HB: You did compliment Usher’s Men’s Health shoot recently…
TR: Yeah, it was wonderful, it was great.
HB: Does this mean you guys are friends?
TR: “Friends” is a strong word. But he and I are definitely cordial. We have children. I’m definitely supportive of the things he’s doing with his career, ya know. When he does good and I compliment it, it’s no different from me giving Morris Chestnut the same compliment two days ago [in “The Best Man”], you know what I mean? It was never like, ‘Oh, I wanna be with him’ or ‘He’s a great man.’ It was just an acknowledgment.
HB: The media jumped all over it. What do you have to say to that to put all of that to rest?