Black Leading Women Playing the Side-Piece: Coincidence or Not?

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More than 50 percent of marriages can survive infidelity. Although the relationship may break up from other issues in the future, many couples are surprised when they find that they can stay together after an affair.

3. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

While it is true that some individuals have repeated affairs, many affairs are a once and done thing. What happens after the affair can set a marriage on a course for stability or blow it out of the water. After ending the affair, the person who cheated must be completely honest for healing to take place.

4. Affairs happen because something is wrong with the marriage.

Here’s the truth: There’s something wrong with every marriage. Affairs may reflect that couples don’t know how to work together to improve the problems in their marriages. Just because you are having marital issues doesn’t justify infidelity.

5. If there’s no sex, there’s no affair.

Many affairs happen without any sex at all. Is it cheating to stay up half the night, secretly texting an old classmate about your most intimate thoughts? The person doing it may not see it as cheating, but you can be sure that his/her partner sees it this way! When you give an emotional part of yourself to someone who is a potential affair mate, it’s a form of infidelity.

In reality, infidelity is one of the worst kept secrets. Where would movies, television, fiction and non-fiction books, talk shows and music be without it?  But when it comes to our personal lives we hide from it whether we’re the victims or the perpetrators.

Maybe by taking a more honest look at how we end up in unhealthy relationships, we can figure out other options that break the age-old cycle. And if we can’t break it, the least we can do is be prepared when it confronts us. They say the best defense is a good offense and nothing hurts worse than getting blindsided by someone you love and trust.

So here are a few things to consider:

•    What are your mate’s real feelings about cheating and what are they based on?
•    Is he or she from a family where infidelity was prevalent?
•    What is your mate’s definition of cheating? This is a question Hillary may have wished she asked Bill.
•    What is your history when it comes to trust. Did your dad cheat on your mom or vice versa?
•    Were you ever taught that “all men cheat?”
•    Have you ever used cheating as a well to sabotage a good relationship because you didn’t think you were worthy?
•    If you have been cheated on, did you leave or stay and why?

Let me hear from you. Especially if you’re “Mary Jane.”  No judgement!

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8 thoughts on “Black Leading Women Playing the Side-Piece: Coincidence or Not?

  1. Let’s get real please? You are basing your article on television shows?…..I know of other races both men and women who have cheated on their spouses in the past. White women the role of The SIDE PIECE as well. Why does EVERYTHING have to be based on black v white or white v black. These are pieces of entertainment. These are women who are ACTING in roles written by BLACK writers! To speak out about criminal injustice is one thing but to try to draw ire and ignorance about something that generally everyone has done at one time or another either emotionally or physically since the beginning of time is completely insane! How about writing about subjects that pull us together instead of poking and prodding trying to find something that isnt there!!!

  2. I wouldn’t say its intentionally… more generational. If infidelity is in your bloodline then its being passed down throughout your generation. I would say it’s more than likely that your relationship may suffer but you will have to take a stand to break the cycle. People need to understand that spirits are real and if your spouse is cheating then spirits are being passed back and forth from your spouse to your outside partner and vice versa. That’s more drama on top of more drama.

    MsRa’Kyee
    Relationship Expert
    Author of forthcoming book ‘Yes, I’m Single But, My Heart Is Taken’

  3. I believe that infidelity is not only caused by issues within the relationship but, by a lack of insecurity within the partner choosing to cheat. This is an insightful follow up to what we are seeing revealed on the entettainment screen and what we as a society choose to hide under the rug until its exposed.

  4. It is absolutely intentional!! These shows are the female equivalent to gangster rap one exploits young impressionable men the other vulnerable women. This is all part of a social engineering scheme, the entertainment today dumbs down the consciousness of the people and plants certain ideas in the minds of the children. Yes the children because we all know that some child somewhere is seeing these made for adult images.

  5. This type of behavior is NOT limited to black women and I do not know why we keep trying to push this. I know white women and their white husbands cheat and have white women as side piece. Everything is not about race. And remember 70% (it maybe higher now) of today’s couples get a divorce.

  6. I have no idea if it is intentional or not but,presently,the Black woman is the Black race’s worst enemy.Between her big mouth and her insistence that the Black man should believe in her white jesus before she sexes him out of wedlock, she is driving the whole race over the proverbial cliff.I want nothing to do with her.

    • so let me understand this correctly. you want nothing to do with a black woman b/c by your account blk women make their men worship a white jesus???? So you don’t want to worship a white Jesus but you want to marry or mate a white woman???? REALLY???? VERY DELUSIONAL. And you’re so emphatic about degrading a black woman??? What color is your mother, grandmother, and other women in your family???? Before you spew out such FOOLISHNESS use your THIRD EYE!!!! THAT’S YOUR BRAIN in case you are too clueless to COMPREHEND!! SMH

  7. Reblogged this on The Student Becomes The Teacher and commented:
    As a new thespian in this world, I understand the history of American depictions of race. In the beginning, they were racist and cruel. Nowadays, there is more diversity but there is still work to be done. That’s why I’m writing my screenplay.

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