Too Much,Too Fast

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  • It was a lethal mix of too much, too fast.

    Jovan Belcher was 25 and a promising linebacker with the Kansas City Chiefs.  His girlfriend, Kassandra “Kasi,” Perkins was 22, pretty and the mother of his three-month-old daughter, Zoe.

    But last weekend, what should have ultimately been the couple’s wedding announcement became their obituary. Belcher fatally shot Perkins after an argument before driving to Arrowhead Stadium and turning the gun on himself in front of the team’s general manager and head coach.

    According to The Kansas City Star, Belcher said: “I got to go,” and “I can’t be here,” before kneeling behind a vehicle, making the sign of the cross, and shooting himself in the head.

    I believe that misogyny was part of that tragic mix – especially if Perkins’ staying out past 1 a.m. at a Trey Songz concert with her friends was indeed the catalyst that caused Belcher to kill her. The Star reported that after he shot Perkins, he apologized and kissed her on her forehead.

    However, it also reported that the couple had been arguing about relationship and financial issues for months.

    Yet based on what’s been revealed so far, it seems that life was happening for Belcher way too fast, that the physical pain of playing in the NFL and the difficulty of dealing with a turbulent relationship was too much, and because he didn’t have the coping skills to slow it down, he just decided to stop it altogether.

    And football doesn’t exactly lend itself to helping young men – men who suddenly have to manage wealth, fame and pain before maturity kicks in – develop those kinds of skills.

    Now I realize that no one forces anyone to play football. Yet while I watch the sport, I’ve become increasingly ambivalent toward it over the years.

    I feel this way each time I hear about a player going bankrupt because he bought ten cars and has eight baby mamas. Or when I see a retired player struggle to walk, or see one addled by concussions, or hooked on painkillers.

    And when I hear a young black man tell me he doesn’t need school because he plans to play pro football, I wonder whether it’s worth the price of a season ticket when so many black men wind up worse off for it.

    From what I’ve read so far, Belcher seemed to be struggling to cope, but in a way that fit more with football and not with real life.

    It’s easy to see how that can happen.

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    3. I totally agree w/ Eagles. This is some non-sense. A young man trying to become a man and did not succeed. He was a coward first of all and a disgrace to all men. I do not feel sorry for him, but for the young woman’s life he has stolen and the baby that has no father or mother.

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    5. Now there is more information coming out saying that the KCPD found Belcher sleep in a praking lot early Sat morning and neighbors called the police because his vehicle was in the parking lot. When they woke him up he states he was waiting for his girfriend to open the door! He called her and someone who was not Kassandra let him in and after he left there he went home and murdered the mother of his child????? There must have been a lot going on in his life I don’t know and neither do any of us. Here is my point two people are dead and the selfish act he commited by taking someone with him if he wanted to die makes me sick to my stomach! If you want to leave this world go ahead but why commit the selfish act and then take someone away from their loved one’s because you can’t cope with life!

    6. Hey, Tonyaa, miss me with the BS and excuses for this boy. I am sick and tired of you and other commentators for BAW and black media in general using these unnecessary tragedies to blame everybody and everything else except the person causing the problems.

      This player, in more than one sense, had more than resources at his disposal to seek the necessary help for his problems. Between the coaching staff, owners, financial planners, counselors, and other peripheral people in the NFL, he had no room to use murder as a last result for his refusal to actually grow the hell up. Remember: he KILLED an INNOCENT WOMAN–Kassandra Perkins–and left their three month old daughter without parents. What options did they have?

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