You can’t be all things to all people all the time. But if you are savvy, you can be all of yourself for yourself. There’s skill and technique involved in knowing how to be the desirable woman at work, who looks a lot different from the woman at home, the woman in bed, the woman in prayer, or the woman on stage. Our various roles require that we utilize different abilities. It’s not only knowing how to speak or move in a particular role, it’s also knowing when to do it and when to pull back. For instance, speaking to your child should not sound like you’re in a poetry slam. And how you interact with your man should not mirror your behavior in a business meeting. Leave that tight butt, control freak in the office. How you laugh out loud, from the gut, with your girls is different than laughing with someone you just met. Why? It’s because different roles require different attitudes, style, and energy.
You see, when a woman can flow authentically and freely, all areas in her life are enhanced. Her business world influences her creative world. Her spiritual world inspires her personal world. And, her confident world strengthens her insecure world. They are all parts of the whole – the Multifaceted You.
The truth be told, who-you-are is indeed multifaceted. Yet this is a realization that can only be embraced and maximized by doing the self-work. I still bring that rambunctious little girl with me everywhere I go. The difference is that I’m learning how and when to use her mouth, energy, and edge.
As you grow in personal and professional relationships,you need both the wisdom to work what you’ve got and the savvy to work with your best asset- You.
Deya “Direct” Smith is a producer on “The Tom Joyner Morning Show” and host of “Girlfriend FM,” as well as “Beyond the Studio” celebrity interviews on BlackAmericaWeb.com. She is also a motivational spe