For those of us who’ve been married and divorced, we know that ignoring the warning signs is the worst thing that you can do. Generally, the unresolved issues pre-wedding only get worse post-wedding. You get married then realize you could have possibly made the biggest mistake of your life. I’ve been there.
Yes, like those of you who believe and support marriage, so do I whole-heartedly. But does it really take more courage to stick it out once you’ve realized you made a big mistake? Or does it require more courage to end it so that you don’t potentially live the rest of your life in a miserable state? More and more, I am embracing the understanding that life is too short.
Is the person who stays married for 20 years living a miserable life more courageous and honorable because they chose to stay? Because they chose to please others and society? Even in the name of your vows, I ask, how long are you supposed to live with the consequences of a bad decision?
Yes, we judge Kim K; we laugh at, gossip about and judge the dilemma she finds herself in. Yes, she probably got caught up in the fairy tale wedding more than the reality of marriage. Regardless of her missteps, I ask you to consider this issue differently. Once you’ve come to terms with the fact that you made a bad decision, is it really better to stay?
Deya “Direct” Smith is a producer on “The Tom Joyner Morning Show” and host of “Girlfriend FM,” as well as “Beyond the Studio” celebrity interviews on BlackAmericaWeb.com. She is also a motivational speaker, actress and social commentator. Basically Deya is Direct because she has a way of getting straight to the point, telling people the truth without making them feel bad about themselves. Follow her on Twitter @DeyaDirect. She can also be reached at DeyaDirect@aol.com.