If you want to know what a person thinks, the best thing to do is to ask them, right? At the same time, if you’re not ready for the truth, don’t ask. Women spend much of our time talking about men, but what we think and engage about and how men really feel are not the same. On Girlfriend FM, it’s time for men – real men – to have their say.
Men often accuse women of not being good listeners, but if you want to know the truth, and I do, it’s time to listen. Brothers have something to say and a perspective that is worthwhile.
On Girlfriend FM, I have created a video series, “From the Minds of Men,” where I talk to married and single men separately, and they break down how they really feel. We discuss everything – from the dynamics of marriage, communication, interracial relationships, rejection, money, stress and social media in a relationship. (http://video.blackamericaweb.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=2462:from-the-mind-of-men-part-1&catid=352:from-the-mind-of-men&Itemid=342).
First up are the married men: Benny Black, who has been married for 12 years (with three children) to a non-black woman of color; Steven Dixon, married for six years, speaker and author of Men Don’t Heal, They Ho, and Skip Gates, author of How I Broke My Addiction to White Women (the Ultimate Tribute to Black Women), who’s on his third marriage.
One of the points that really stood out for me in Part One are the topics of communication and leadership from a man, which ultimately lead to security or insecurity that a woman feels within her relationship.